by John Gray

: “I’ve have learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.”
 “Now we that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let each one of us please his neighbor for that which is good, unto edifying. For Christ also pleased not himself …” (Rom 15:1-4).
In general, a gray area is an area of life where the Bible neither specifically condemns an action nor condones an action, or the difference of opinion could be the fruit of spiritual immaturity.
Here are four practical questions to ask yourself when faced with questionable or grey situations.
1. Does it promote edification and/or encouragement? Will my choice of action promote unity among the saints? --- “So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up”. (Rom 14:19).
2. Can it lead to bondage (addition)? --- “But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.” (1Co 9:27).
3. Do you have an uneasy conscience about it? --- “But the end of the charge is love out of a pure heart and a good conscience and faith unfeigned:” (1Ti 1:5).
4. Can it cause someone else to stumble? --- “Wherefore, if meat causeth my brother to stumble, I will eat no flesh for evermore, that I cause not my brother to stumble.” (1Co 8:13).
Folks, Christianity is not a competition. It isn’t my faith against your faith or us against them. Christianity is supposed to be a relationship. We grow and mature and learn from each other. We lean on each other. We put others first. We run the race in such a way as to ensure that we all cross the finish line in a way that honors God. If there is something that I am doing that might trip you up, I need to get it out of the way. Don’t do anything that might ruin your witness to others. Don’t let gray areas or minor issues be the things that define our faith.
How I respond to those people that I don’t agree with makes all the difference in the world. There are things I don’t do that I could do; places I don’t go that I could go within my freedom in Christ. When we are all focused on Christ, we will all be in perfect harmony with each other. Remember, Jesus did not seek to please Himself.

Has it ever occurred to you that one hundred pianos all tuned to the same fork are automatically tuned to each other? They are of one accord by being tuned, not to each other, but to another standard to which each one must individually bow. So each worshipper (Tuned to Christ) is following the same compass that will direct them to God.