Southside's Blog

Southside is a loving, vigorous, and growing congregation in Shelbyville, Tennessee. Our vision is toward the future: Our Children, Our Ministry, and Our Outreach. Our goal is to embrace all people in our hearts and fellowship as we strive together to support Christ’s mission on earth.

Just Like Jesus - The Touch of God

Max encourages us to think about our hands. “All of us learned early that the hand is suited for more than survival—it’s a tool of emotional expression. The same hand can help or hurt, extend or clench, lift someone up or shove someone down.”

“Oh, the power of our hands. Leave them unmanaged and they become weapons: clawing for power, strangling for survival, seducing for pleasure. But manage them and our hands become instruments of grace—not just tools in the hands of God, but God’s very hands. Surrender them and these five-fingered appendages become the hands of heaven.”

Max says that Jesus completely surrendered his hands to God. In Matthew 8 a leper called out to Jesus “Lord, you can heal me if you will.” Jesus could have just spoken a word and the leper would have been healed but he chose to reach out his hand to heal his loneliness as well.

Max wonders what the leper was thinking. “For five years no one touched me. No one. Not one person. Not my wife. Not my child. Not my friends. No one touched me.”

“I was untouchable. I was a leper. And no one touched me. Until today.”

“What is common to you, I coveted. Handshakes. Warm embraces. Small moments were taken from my world. Even the rabbis kept their distance from me. I was not permitted in the synagogue. Not even in my own house.”

“In scripture the leper is symbolic of the ultimate outcast: infected by a condition he did not ask seek, rejected by those he knew, avoided by people he did not know, condemned to a future he could not bear. And in the memory of each outcast must have been the day he was forced to face the truth: life would never be the same.”

Max tells a childhood story of regret. A friend’s father was a drunk and that fact became an issue with all of his friends. Max writes: “Jerry, the son of a drunk. Kids can be hard, and for some reason we were hard on Jerry. He was infected. Like the leper, he suffered from a condition he didn’t create. Like the leper, he was put outside the village.” In today’s environment too many kids know about bullying.

“The divorced know this feeling. So do the handicapped. The unemployed have felt it, as have the less educated. Some shun the unmarried moms. We keep our distance from the depressed and avoid the terminally ill.”

“Only God knows how many Jerrys are in voluntary exile—individuals living quiet, lonely lives infected by their fear of rejection and their memories of the last time they tried. They choose not to be touched at all rather than being hurt again.”

Max says the touch did not heal the leprosy, but Jesus’s words did the healing of the disease. “The loneliness, however, was treated by a touch from Jesus.”

“Oh, the power of a godly touch. Haven’t you known it? The doctor who treated you, or the teacher who dried your tears? Was there a hand holding yours at a funeral? Another on your shoulder during a trial? A handshake of welcome at a new job? A pastoral prayer for healing? Haven’t we know the power of a godly touch?” Our primary care physician has often placed his hand on my shoulder and prayed for my health.

“Can’t we offer the same?”

“Many of you already do. Some of you have the master touch of the Physician himself. You use your hands to pray over the sick and minister to the weak. If you aren’t touching them personally, your hands are writing letters, dialing phones*, baking pies. You have learned the power of a touch.”

“But others of us tend to forget. Our hearts are good: it’s just that our memories are bad. We forget how significant one touch can be. We fear saying the wrong thing or using the wrong tone or acting the wrong way. So rather than do it incorrectly, we do nothing at all.”

I gave the paragraph above emphasis because it describes me so well. I’ve used this as an excuse to do nothing for way too long. Along with this excuse I’ve used, “God did not give me this talent” or “Well I do other things” and “Bob really has the talent for doing that, so I’ll leave it up to him”. The odds are that you cannot give me an excuse I haven’t used. Think about James 4:17, NLT: "Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it."

The following quote is from Dean Omish in his book, Love and Survival: “Anything that promotes feelings of love and intimacy is healing; anything that promotes isolation, separation, loneliness, loss, hostility, anger, cynicism, depression, alienation, and related feelings often leads to suffering, disease, and premature death from all causes”

I’m working on correcting this part of my life. First, I suspect that Satan has a hand in my lack of action, so I pray for God’s help. I have begun to produce greeting cards on my computer. They aren’t slick, shiny nor in color. Using quotes from online are much better than any I can come up with. It’s sitting in the out mail now because I’m wondering if I selected the right quote. Will it hit a nerve, etc. This is NOT easy but it’s necessary. Thanks to Paula Smith, who has her own card ministry, for sharing ideas with me and providing encouragement.

Max closes the chapter with the following; “Aren’t we glad Jesus didn’t make the same mistake? If your fear of doing the wrong thing prevents you from doing anything, keep in mind the perspective of the lepers of the world. They aren’t picky. They aren’t finicky. They’re just lonely. They are yearning for a godly touch.”

“Jesus touched the untouchables of the world. Will you do the same?”

*This book was written in 1998. There are stories of showing today’s kids a rotary phone and they have no idea what they are. I’m so old that I remember in Paris, TN we would pick up the phone and the operator would say “number, please” . Our number was 169. We went to rotary phones in about 1963.

Max’s Study Guide:

Spend a few minutes thanking the Lord for those who have taken the time to show you compassion or kindness when you needed it most. Bring them by name before the Lord. Then tell them personally, through a note or phone call, what their ministry to you has meant.

Ask God to show you someone that needs that special “Godly touch.” Chances are you already know who it is. If you sense some resistance on your part (“ Not him/her! Not me—I can’t”), ask the Lord to make your hands into his and surrender them to him.



Just Like Jesus written by Max Lucado, Published by Word Publishing – 1998 – Used with permission

Continue reading
  1062 Hits

Just Like Jesus Loving the People You Are Stuck With

Max opens this chapter with the story of receiving his first pet, Liz, a Chinese pug. His parents made it plain that Liz was his responsibility. After a few days, he realized he was stuck with Liz. Max says: “Liz went from an option to an obligation, from a pet to a chore, from someone to play with to someone to care for.”

Max continues: “Chances are you know the claustrophobia that comes with commitment. Only instead of being reminded she’s your dog, it’s your husband, wife, child, parent, employee, boss or roommate or any other relationship that requires loyalty for survival .”

If you think about that first child, you are so excited that you are about to have that precious little bundle to love. Then, with dirty diapers, middle of the night crying and feedings the reality of the responsibility hits home. During the years I have had several young people who worked with me experience their first baby. Kay and I could not afford disposable diapers, so I could not resist telling them about cloth diapers and how you emptied them and the odor that comes from the diaper pail. Some of them got green around the gills. Only those who are older can appreciate this experience. Young folks be thankful for disposable diapers. After all the sleepless nights, dirty diapers, being asked “why” nine million times they turn into teenagers. We love them anyway!!

Max invented a word to go along with the relationship that requires loyalty, “stuckitits”. “Stuck meaning trapped. Itits being the six letters you tag on to any word you want to sound impressive.” Max says “there is only three ways to cope with stuckitits: flee, fight or forgive. My manual has no model for how forgiveness occurs, but the Bible does.”

Max goes on to talk about Jesus knowing the feeling of being stuck with someone. Jesus was around his apostles for three years day in and day out. “Think about it. He could hear their unspoken thoughts. He knew their private doubts. Not only that, he knew their future doubts. What if you knew every mistake you loved ones had ever made and every mistake they would ever make? What if you knew every thought, they would have about you, every irritation, every dislike, every betrayal?”

Max describes the last event that Christ had with his apostles all together. It was the upper room where Christ instituted the Lord’s Supper. Before they took the bread and the wine, Jesus washed the feet of the apostles, an act usually reserved for the lowest of servants. Max writes: “You can be sure Jesus knows the future of these feet he is washing. These twenty- four feet will not spend the next day following their master, defending his cause. These feet will dash for cover at the flash of a Roman sword. Only one pair of feet won’t abandon him in the garden. One disciple won’t desert him at Gethsemane---Judas won’t make it that far! He will abandon Jesus that very night at the table.” Think about Peter who cursed and denied him, apostles arguing about who among them was the best and Thomas who questioned his resurrection.

Max goes on to say that he looked for a Bible translation that reads that Jesus washed all the feet except for Judas’. He further talks about what a passionate moment when Jesus lifts Judas’, his betrayer, feet and washes them. “Remarkable. He forgave their sin before they even committed it. He offered mercy before they even sought it.”

Max continues: “Oh I could never do that you object. The hurt is so deep. The wounds are so numerous. Just seeing the person causes me to cringe. Perhaps that is your problem. Perhaps you are seeing the wrong person or at least too much of the wrong person. Remember, the secret of being just like Jesus is fixing our eyes on him. Try shifting your glance away from the one who hurt you and setting your eyes on the one who has saved you.”

“Our savior kneels down and gazes upon the darkest acts of our lives. But rather than recoil in horror, he reaches out in kindness and says, ‘I can clean that if you want.’ And from the basin of his grace, he scoops a palm full of mercy and washes our sin away.”

“Because he lives in us, you and I can do the same. Because he has forgiven us, we can forgive others. Because he has a forgiving heart, we can have a forgiving heart. We have a heart like his.”

“Jesus washes our feet for two reasons. The first is to give us mercy; the second is to give a message, and that message is simply this: Jesus offers us unconditional grace; we are to offer unconditional grace.” This may be one of the more difficult attitudes for us to adopt in our lives.

Max says we often rebel at the idea of giving unconditional grace. I did not do anything wrong!! He/she is the guilty party! Max’s answer: “Of all the men in that room, only one was worthy of having his feet washed. And he was the one who washed their feet. The one worthy of being served, served others. The one who is innocent is the one who makes the gesture.” Max believes that if the innocent party “washes the feet” of the guilty party then both parties wind up on their knees. Max follows with an absolute truth:

“Please understand. Relationships don’t thrive because the guilty are punished but because the innocent are merciful!”

All too often we are not happy until the other person is appropriately punished and then and only then I might forgive. Is there ever a justification, good reason or just an excuse for not loving and forgiving? In our minds the answer is “yes” but in the mind of God and Christ the answer is “no”. Match the sins you’ve committed against God with the sins committed against you. Which ones are more grievous?

Do I really want to be Just Like Jesus or just talk a good game? Christ does not say it will be as easy for us as it is for him but that’s no excuse. Let’s face it, if we refuse to forgive then we’re not trying to be like Jesus! Pray, pray and pray about it. Don’t take the attitude that God will just have to live with it!

Max concludes this chapter: “Certain conflicts can be resolved only with a basin of water. Are any relationships in your world thirsty for mercy? Are there any sitting around your table who need to be assured of your grace? Jesus made sure his disciples had no reason to doubt his love. Why don’t you do the same?”

Max’s Study Guide:

Do you feel you have stuckititus with someone right now? Do you want to flee, fight or forgive? Do you think anyone feels the same about you?

Read Colossians 3:12-17 and Ephesians 4:32 and 5:1-2 These verses outline Max’s thoughts in this chapter.

How grimy did God get when he reached down to clean you up? How grimy are you willing to get in order to be an imitator of God?

My comments:

Be completely honest with yourself as you evaluate Max’s writings.

Can you have Biblical love for someone and detest their personality?

God bless us in our efforts to forgive and to love!



Continue reading
  1008 Hits

Just Like Jesus


Before retirement, I did not study the Bible like I should unless I was preparing to lead class discussion. If I was not leading a class, my efforts to study to grow my relationship with God and Christ left much to be desired. Other things took over my priorities. There may be folks who struggle with study because of careers, raising children or other priorities. We just don’t take or make the time to grow with God. The only way to improve our relationships with God and Christ is study and prayer. Some people believe that the only book we should study is the Bible and their point is understandable. However, writers can cause me to think differently about what I always thought the Bible has to say. These writers are an aid to a more in-depth study.

If you have read any of my articles, you probably know that Max Lucado is my favorite writer. He can write things in such a way that they have an effect on me. I’ve contacted other writers to get permission to use their material, but some have not responded. If they give permission, their material will also be in future articles.

I would like to try something. For those who struggle with finding time to study, I would like to write a synopsis of Max Lucado’s book, Just Like Jesus. The reading time should be short, but hopefully will generate a great deal of reflection. This book was published by Word Publishing in 1998. I use with permission from Mr. Lucado. This synopsis cannot and will not do justice to the book!! You can buy Max Lucado books from his website or any book sellers for a deeper study.

During my English education in high school and business writing classes in college, it was driven into my head that using the word “I” too frequently was not appropriate. At times, I spend more time trying to avoid using “I” than its worth. I’m too old so, excuse my use of “I”. There are going be references to my experiences. They are the only experiences I can completely relate to so they are used only in hopes you can use them to avoid the same mistakes.

It seems that many writers are all about making us feel good about ourselves. Romans 3:23 New Living Translation (NLT): “For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard” lets us know the truth about our lives. We need to improve! Try to measure yourself objectively as you read the articles. It helps my growth to be realistic about my life.

In the foreword, Max writes: “My prayer for all who read these words is simple. May God open your eyes so that you can see Jesus. And in seeing Jesus, may you see what you are called to be.”

Chapter One – A Heart Like His

Max asks: “What if, for one day, Jesus were to become you? What if, for one day and one night, Jesus lives your life with his heart? What would you be like? Would people notice a change?”

Max challenges us to spend some time focusing on what effect the change of having Jesus’ heart in us would have on our lives. Will our stress, our anger, our mood swings, obligations, time commitments, etc. change? My reply: Without a doubt!!

Max continues: “What you see is what God wants. He wants you to think and act like Christ Jesus (Phil. 2:5). God wants you to be just like Jesus. He wants you have a heart like Jesus.”

“ God loves you the way you are, but he refuses to leave you that way. He wants you to be just like Jesus.”

Max says: “Isn’t that good news? You aren’t stuck with today’s personality. You are tweakable. Even if you’ve worried each day of your life, you needn’t worry the rest of your life. So what if you were born a bigot? You don’t have to die one. Jesus can change our hearts. He wants us to have a heart just like his. Can you imagine a better offer?”

Max writes about the heart of Christ: “The heart of Jesus was pure. Jesus’ heart was peaceful. His heart was purposeful. How pleasant were his thoughts! But the crowning attribute of Christ was this: His heart was spiritual. His thoughts reflected his intimate relationship with the Father. I am in the Father and the Father is in me, he stated in John 14:11. Jesus took his instructions from God.” These thoughts make it easy to see why God would want our hearts to be like Jesus.

Max continues with thoughts on the heart of humanity: “Our hearts seem so far from his. How could we ever hope to have the heart of Jesus? Ready for a surprise? You already have the heart of Christ. If you are in Christ, you already have the heart of Christ. He has made your heart his home. Christ lives in me. Gal 2:20 MSG”.

“If I have the mind of Jesus, why do I still think so much like me? If I have the heart of Christ, why do I still have the hang-ups of Max?”

“With our souls saved but our hearts unchanged---are connected but not altered. Trusting Christ for salvation but resisting transformation.” Does this describe me?

“If you have given your life to Jesus, Jesus has given himself to you. He has moved in and unpacked his bags and is ready to change you into ‘into his likeness from one degree of glory to another’ 2 Cor. 3;18 RSV. No doubt about it: God has ambitious plans for us. The same one who saved your soul longs to remake your heart.”

“God is willing to change us into the likeness of the Savior. Shall we accept his offer? Let’s imagine what it means to be just like Jesus. Let’s look long into the heart of Christ. Let’s spend some chapters considering his compassion, reflecting upon his intimacy with the Father, admiring his focus, pondering his endurance. How did he forgive? When did he pray? What him so pleasant? Why didn’t he give up? Let’s ‘fix our eyes on Jesus Heb. 12:2 NIV. Perhaps in seeing him, we will see what we can become.”

You may be thinking, if God wants us to be like Jesus, why didn’t he make us that way as he brought us into the world? God wants us to be like Jesus through our choice. One commentator believes that only love that comes from a free will is true love. Love isn't genuine if it’s the only choice we have.

As I read Max’s writings the following comes to mind: “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do”. Romans 7:15 This is so true of my life! Satan always stands ready to come between God, Christ and us. Hopefully, studying Just Like Jesus will help!

Max offers a Study Guide following each chapter. Here are a few of his thoughts and questions:

  1. What things would you expect to change if Jesus came into your heart? Are you willing?
  2. Philippians 2:5-13 describes Christ’s attitude and directs us to continue to work out our salvation. How much effort are you willing to expend to comply with this passage? Think about what your answer says about you.
  3. Keep in mind Colossians 3:9-10: “… since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the imagine of its Creator.”

My thoughts:

Years ago I tried to teach junior high classes in Sunday School. It seemed like more time was spent asking them to sit-up, stop talking and pay attention. Every once in a while they did come up with good questions. During a discussion about being more like Jesus, the question was asked: "Does God really expect us to be like Jesus?"  h expects our very best effort but realizes we are not perfect like Jesus so that's why he offered Jesus as the sacrifice. The follow-up question: "Does God give credit for effort or does he grade on the curve?" Gods knows our heart and sees what effort we are making ro be like Jesus. Given God's wisdom and knowledge, I do not believe he finds it necessary to grade on the curve. I wanted to say that grading on the curve would indicate degrees of heaven and hell. NOT GOING THERE!!!




Continue reading
  1037 Hits

Short Topics II

I have a favor to request. Last Monday, September 16, I struggled through another stroke. The effects, blurred vision in the right eye, speech more slurred than it is now and inability to call up the words that I wanted to use lasted about six hours then they were gone. Felt about “half a bubble off of plum” for a few more days but now I’m back. First, praise and thank God for my recovery then ask God to bless my health. This was exceedingly difficult for me to write but Sunday Gale Crump told me that I needed to open up and let people pray for me. Thanks for the encouragement Gale!!


The Hebrew means simply "to be pleased." The Greek brings out the full force of the word in 1 Timothy 6:8; Hebrews 13:5. Contentment (1 Timothy 6:6) is more inward than satisfaction; the former is a habit or permanent state of mind, the latter has to do with some particular occurrence or object.

Webster’s definition: The state of being mentally or emotionally satisfied with things the way they are. It seems rare today that people are content with things in life. Career, finances, home, marriage, children, church, just life, in general, there is much to be desired. Our need for more or better tends to drive us. Contentment isn't getting what we want but being satisfied with what we have.

Paul writes in Philippians 4:11 that he had learned to be content no matter what. He uses the word "need," which appears to speak to basic physical needs. He also says, "no matter the circumstances". I believe we can take contentment to every blessing God has made for us. He blesses us with all our needs not necessarily all our wants. It’s good to try to better yourself in life but when your lack of contentment becomes an obsession, you are moving into dangerous territory. Don’t lose focus on what’s important, your relationship with God. Be content and wait on God.

Isaiah 40:31 ESV “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

Psalm 27:14 ESV “Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for

the Lord!”


Why look at complacence just after writing about contentment? In his book, On The Anvil, Max Lucado writes that we must be careful not to allow satan to lull us into complacence which is quite different from contentment. Read what Max Lucado writes: “Complacence. Life with no questions. Blind acceptance. No probing. No searching. No yearning. We live in a world plagued by complacence. Complacent to God. Churchgoers pack the pews and sing to the back of someone’s head. Fellowship is lost in formality. One, two, three times a week people pay their dues by walking in the door, enduring a ritual, and walking out. Guilt is appeased. God is insulted. Are we so naïve as to think that he needs our attendance? Are we so ignorant that we put God in a box, thinking he can be taken in and out at our convenience? The most deadly trick of satan is not to rob us of answers. It’s to steal our questions.” We must not become complacent with our relationship with God. It must continually grow through fellowship with one another in worship, our own Bible study and prayer,

Is the Bible a set of rules or are a pattern for living life?

God initially gave the law or “rules” which he set forth in the Old Testament. He saw that people would not be successful keeping His laws. He took away the law with the death of Christ. The New Testament sets forth a guide for living a happy life. The Bible does not promise happiness in every situation.

Some writers believe that the Bible is not God’s “how to book” but rather is about what has been done in the sacrifice of Christ. They write that the Word of God is primarily and essentially about the saving revelation of the divine Word of God. No argument from me but Christ’s life while on earth was all about teaching what a Christian life meant. For me, the Bible outlines a happy life in Christ. Follow Christ’s teachings and life will not be perfect, but it will bring overall success and happiness.

Peer Pressure

Years ago, there was a drug presentation for high school students that addressed the peer pressure kids were under to use drugs. It started off using this thought: "I'm not what I think I am; I'm not what you think I am, but I am what I think you think I am". If you take a moment to think about the statement, you will agree that the statement has a lot of truth in it.

As a kid, I remember the pressure started as a dare: "I dare you to run into the fog of the mosquito truck". If that wasn't enough pressure, then the dreaded "double-dog dare" was put into play. Who could resist the double-dog dare? The pressure from other children was out front and almost never subtle.

As we grew older, the pressure seemed to grow into more severe actions. There was helping your best friend by lying to his parents to keep him out of trouble. Then there was helping that person you so desperately wanted to win as a best friend to cheat on a test. Take a drag off the cigarette to be seen as one of the cool people, drinking that first beer so as not to be a dork and finally a giant slide downward by trying that first drug, most likely marijuana. Hopefully, we became more resistant to peer pressure before hitting bottom.

We tend to think of peer pressure just being for children, but those thoughts fall short of the truth. Adults use more subtle ways, like manipulation to apply peer pressure. Your boss says: "Let's get this account no matter what". You know what “no matter what” means. Your best client has a filthy joke he can't wait to tell you. Do you listen?

I did business with a guy, AP, who was the master of manipulation. AP was highly intelligent using his mastery of the language and implied consent to win. He used words like trepidation instead of concern; incongruous for inconsistent and the master of all time was eleemosynary for charitable. It took me over five minutes to find that one in the dictionary. After demonstrating his mastery of the language, AP had you on the ropes, so he went for the implied consent: "Mike, I'm sure that you agree with me that…" AP's ideas weren't exactly illegal but sometimes shady.

Peer pressure or manipulation is why God wrote I Corinthians 15:33 "Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character." You can't always avoid bad company, but you can be aware and be ready.


In the deep, dark recesses of your mind or soul do you have fears and doubts? Something that not even your spouse or closest friends don’t know about? Maybe you think God does not know and believe you have been successful hiding them from him. Rest assured God knows and wants you to come to him in prayer about your fears and doubts. He wants to wrap his arms around you and let you know you are loved.

My father’s sister, Auntie, years ago became convinced that she had committed the unpardonable sin of blasphemy against the Holy Spirit. No one understood what Auntie had done and she could not explain it but to her it was so real that she spent considerable time in the hospital.

I have a friend that deals with anxiety and depression most days. She functions quite well but the anxiety and depression haunt her.

I believe these problems are brought on by the devil. He knows where we are weakest both physically and mentally. II Corinthians 10:4 -“The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.” We need to have faith that God will help us fight all battles. His arms are there for us.

Song: Do You Know My Jesus? “Who knows your disappointments? Who hears each time you cry? Who understands your heartaches? Who dries then tears from your eyes?”

“Occasionally, weep deeply over the life you hoped would be. Grieve the losses. Then wash your face. Trust God. And embrace the life you have.” John Piper

I would like for the writings on the blog to interactive. If you see something in a different light, let me know. Share with me your thinking and why you have that belief. Be nice, kind, and gentle when you share. I may share your feedback on the blog, but I will get your permission first. We can grow by being patient and understanding other's thoughts. This will NOT be a forum for debate. To me, the purpose of a debate is to declare a winner. It's my wish that we help one another in growing our relationship with God!

Send me your thoughts: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.



Continue reading
  1195 Hits

Short Topics - I

One Sin Leads to Another

Ever think about how one sin leads to another sin? The first sin leads to a chain of further sinning. It can snowball on us if we are not cautious.

Romans 1:29–32 The New International Version

“They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.”

People become impatient, which leads to anger that leads to saying or doing something that's not becoming of a Christian.

Some have greed for material things or power that leads them to do whatever it takes to get more money for bigger, finer possessions or gain more power. Greed for more possessions or power can lead to stealing, lying, injuring others and possibly even murder. I’m aware of one case that lead to murder.

The first lie often creates the need for a second and third lie to cover up for the first lie. It can lead to believing your lies. Leading a life of lies is headed for troubles. Eventually, it all unravels.

Pride leads us to think more highly of ourselves than we should. When your ego and pride gets out of hand, you lose focus on God, Christ and your family.

Gossip requires at least one partner, so we lead another to sin. It does not matter that you gossip with your wife or husband, it’s still sin! Gossip is vicious a great deal of the time ruining someone's reputation. Yes, I’m sorry to say that I have participated in gossip. If you only listen, you are still participating in gossip!

Not one time was gossip meant to build someone up. It appears that at times gossip is meant to tear someone else down, so that your problems don’t seem so bad. Do you enjoy other’s misery?

I was recently told that a congregation we formerly attended was way off track in certain aspects. The person began to list the wrongful acts she had HEARD the church was engaged in. I informed this person that was not what we experienced when we attended and our friends attending would not be worshipping there under those circumstances. The response, "well, that's what I heard". In this case the gossip hurts the Lord’s church.

There are more sins we could think about that leads to more sinning. The first thing to deal with sin is to admit you have them. I believe I'm in a constant war with satan and fight different battles of temptation all day, every day. If I can fight off the devil on the first temptation, then he may go away for a brief time, but he will be back. He is persistent and never doubt that he wants to win. I ask God to prepare me for the next battle so I will not be an such easy target for satan.

Faith and Trust vs. Worry

Scholars differ on whether the words faith and trust are interchangeable. I believe they are when it comes to God. If you ask God for a blessing then worry about whether he will grant your request, you don't trust God. You probably do not doubt his ability to deliver, but you struggle with accepting his will, if his answer is different than your request. Your faith that God ALWAYS knows what's best for your life is weak.

"Sorrow looks back. Worry looks around. Faith looks up." From God's Little Devotional Book

Forgiveness for sin

Some believe that you must confess every single sin you've committed to receive forgiveness. They are using I John 1:9 as the text for their belief. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness". I believe in this verse as well. But what if I commit sin that I don't realize I've committed? This is where grace comes in to cover our sin. God knows your heart! There is no intent to refuse confession on your part.

What about unconfessed sin? I John 1 , says “if” we confess the sin in our lives he will forgive. Psalm 66:18-19 – “If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.” Absolute refusal to confess sin means no forgiveness and Psalm indicates that God will not listen to prayers. Many commentators do not agree with the statements I just made.

Is exceeding the speed limit a sin that I need to confess?

Thorn in the flesh

In 2 Corinthians:7, Paul writes that he has a thorn in the flesh. Scholars have different thoughts on how Paul's thorn manifested itself. I don't believe how the thorn affected Paul is as important as why he had the thorn. The MSG translation says: "Because of the extravagance of those revelations, and so I wouldn't get a big head, I was given the gift of a handicap to keep me in constant touch with my limitations. Satan's angel did his best to get me down; what he in fact did was push me to my knees. No danger then of walking around high and mighty!" It's important to know that God allowed the thorn. When Paul prayed for God to remove the thorn, God told Paul three times that "My grace is sufficient." God had a purpose for Paul's thorn.

Do you have a thorn in your flesh? It may not manifest as a physical aliment but as a limitation. You probably do but never thought of it that way. If you do have a thorn or limitation, why is it there and for what purpose? Ask God to help you deal with your thorn and understand it’s purpose. Then let him lead you!

Was it a bad day? Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day? From Save the Cowboy

I would like for the writings on the blog to interactive. If you see something in a different light, let me know. Share with me your thinking and why you have that belief. Be nice, kind, and gentle when you share. I may share your feedback on the blog, but I will get your permission first. We can grow by being patient and understanding other's thoughts. This will NOT be a forum for debate. To me, the purpose of a debate is to declare a winner. It's my wish that we help one another in growing our relationship with God!

Send me your thoughts: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.



Continue reading
  1165 Hits

Observing Others

I love to observe people. How they dress in quite different fashions in the different environments. The choices of tattoos, piercings, and hairstyles. Their reactions to the circumstances they face. Their interactions with other people. Their driving habits!!!

The airport is one of the best places to observe people. You can see all shapes, sizes, nationalities, styles of dress, etc. Ladies wearing spike heels carrying large purses and carryon bags trying to run to make a flight. Parents are trying to get multiple kids to keep up and stay together. Then their efforts to keep them occupied and happy during the flight. After a Church of God In Christ convocation in Memphis, you saw more large hat boxes trying to be fit in an overhead bin than you can imagine. In Atlanta, you see families flying back in from the Caribbean Islands in tee shirts, shorts and sandals when the outside temperature is 40 degrees. New York has more diversity than any airport as far as nationalities and dress. In Augusta, just after 9/11 a lady in front of me in line was incredibly nervous as they examined our bags. This was her time to fly so that seemed to be the reason for her nerves. Finally, she turned to me and asked if the man going through the luggage was going to hold up her underwear. On the same flight, a middle eastern man wearing a turban was of great interest to everyone. He must have felt awkward. In my mind, I thought about what I would do if he got out of his seat during the flight. On one flight, a lady seated in the same row as me quietly sobbed the entire trip. Had she received sad news about her health, a death in the family, a recent divorce?

Being told your flight has been delayed or canceled really brings out people’s personalities, especially their egos. Some people in airports tend to be tense already, so bad news enhances their frustrations. Their demands and treatment of the airline employees tells you quite a bit about them. These are not some of their proudest moments.

For me, watching people is a way to occupy time and amuse myself. Guess what. We are being observed as well. Many times, it’s not to occupy other people’s time nor supply amusement but to make a note of how we manage our Christian lives. Some are genuinely interested in seeing our example. Others are waiting for the opportunity to be critical because we profess to be Christians but don’t always act like it. The thought that people are watching my example is unnerving.

I can remember three times when people admitted to me that they watched how I managed things. A lady who had recently placed membership at the congregation told me about seeing me in a recent Memphis traffic jam. My heart sank because Memphis traffic jams did not always bring out the best in me. Fortunately, I had allowed another driver to pull in front of me.

When our daughter, Meg, right out of high school, told us she was pregnant; her best friend came to talk with us. Sarah reported that all of Meg’s friends were watching how we handled this news. We asked for an explanation. Sarah explained that some of Meg’s friends thought we might send her off to have Seth or even throw her out of the house. Were we going be loving and supportive parents or abandon our daughter in her greatest time of need was their question? The thoughts of sending her away or throwing her out never crossed our minds.

A few weeks later Kay’s brother committed suicide. A young lady in the congregation wrote us a note. We barely knew this lady, so we were surprised when she handed us a note and walked away. She wrote that her faith had been strengthened because of our faith during these trying times. The note is over 21 years old, and I still carry it in my Bible. I read it on occasion to remind me that people are watching my example.

The purpose of relating these experiences is not to tell you that we did good but illustrate that people watch us and we are unaware! I’m very thankful that on these three occasions, we demonstrated our faith. But what about those times when I did not show my faith? Did I cause someone to stumble in their faith? I’ve written before about two questions that really cause me concern on judgment day: who is a Christian because of you and who is not a Christian because of you?

What does the Bible say about our influence over others?

1 Timothy 4:12 Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.

Matthew 5:13-16 “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people's feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

1 Corinthians 8:9 “Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak.”

Romans 14:13 “Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.”

There is not much disagreement on the meanings of I Timothy and Matthew, but I Corinthians and Romans brings out some emotions. People are often uneasy with the thought that they must consider others as they live their lives. Some react strongly with an attitude that they have rights to conduct life as they want. We are very interested in protecting our rights and freedoms.

The following are excerpts from Stephen Altrogge writing Are You A Stumbling Block? What It REALLY Means (It’s Not What You Think) from the blazing center:

“We tell other Christians not to do certain things because they might become a stumbling block to someone else. Or we refrain from doing certain things because we are afraid, we might become a stumbling block.

Let me start by saying what it does not mean. Doing something other people think is wrong does not necessarily make you a stumbling block.

I’m NOT talking about areas not clearly spelled out in scripture. Lying, cheating, slandering, stealing, and sexual immorality are all clearly sin. If you do those things, you’re straight up sinning.

I’m talking about gray areas here.

Paul clearly addresses the idea of being a stumbling block in 1 Corinthians 8. The issue at hand is food offered to idols. The Corinthians, with their “superior” knowledge, knew that idols were not the true God. This knowledge led them to insist that it was perfectly fine for them to eat food offered to idols.

Paul, however, was concerned for those who had been saved out of idol worship. For these people, eating food offered to idols was akin to idol worship itself. They closely associate eating food offered to idols with worshiping the idols themselves.

This is the issue at the heart of the stumbling block issue. It’s all about other believers. It’s NOT about what people will think about me. If I do something that’s clearly not a sin, and a self-righteous person judges me for it, I’m not being a stumbling block to them.

Let me put a modern-day spin on it. Generally speaking, I don’t think it’s wrong to smoke cigars (within reason, attending to all the appropriate health concerns, making sure you don’t get addicted, etc.)

You, however, are convinced that smoking cigars is wrong. Maybe it’s due to your family history. Maybe you were brought up within a certain church tradition in which you were taught that smoking cigars is categorically wrong.

But no matter how much you search the Bible, you’re not going to find anything about cigars (or any kind of smoking, for that matter). It’s simply not there.

Do I have to stop all cigar smoking because I know you think I am doing something wrong? No. Scripture doesn’t forbid smoking cigars. My liberty in Christ is not restricted simply by what other people might think of me. If my behavior causes you to judge me, that’s not creating a stumbling block. That’s something you need to deal with before the Lord.

But (and this is really important), if I smoke a cigar around you and that, in turn, leads you to smoke a cigar even though you think it is sin, then I have become a stumbling block. My liberty in Christ has actually encouraged you to sin against your conscience. When our “rights” lead others to act against their consciences we have become stumbling blocks.

This fits perfectly in line with the commands of Jesus. He calls me to love others more than I love myself. To lay down my life for my brothers and sisters in Christ. To die to my own preferences.

And so, love for my brothers in Christ guides and restrains my liberty in Christ.

If smoking a cigar or watching a movie or listening to an album or reading a book will lead you to violate your conscience, then I will cheerfully give up that right when I am with you. Love always triumphs over liberty. Unity always triumphs over personal rights.

If I adamantly insist that I have every right to do something, even if it causes you to sin, I’m laying a stumbling block before you. I am prizing my rights in Christ more than your relationship with the Lord. This isn’t pleasing to God in any sense.

We are free to enjoy whatever scripture does not forbid. If a person thinks we’re wrong, so what? However, our freedom must always be wrapped in concern and care for others. If our freedom actually leads someone else to violate their conscience, then we have become a stumbling block.

So, let’s eat and drink and not eat and drink for the glory of God.”

The example Stephen chose was cigar smoking. He closed with “let’s eat and drink” so I’m going to expand to alcoholic beverages. Years ago, when I taught junior high and senior high school, the kids were always interested in a discussion about drinking beer. My first point was, I cannot direct you to a verse in the Bible that states, “Thou shall not partake of alcohol!” However, I can take you verses about drunkenness. Here are a few: I Peter 4:3, Ephesians 5:18, Romans 13:13 and Galatians 5:19-24. Drunkenness is created by drinking alcohol to excess.

Some verses point to drinking wine. I Timothy 5:23: "Stop drinking only water and use a little wine because of your stomach and your frequent illnesses." It’s obvious that Timothy had a stomach problem, so Paul instructed him to use a little wine to help the problem. In I Timothy 3:8, one of the qualifications of a deacon is that he is not given to much wine. Some have written that the wine referred to in the Bible does not contain alcohol. If that be the case, why caution about the amount of wine that is consumed? I do believe that the wine referred to is alcohol.

Is drinking an alcoholic beverage a sin? Having an alcoholic beverage in the privacy of your home, I do not believe it is a sin. A couple of cautions: 1.) Everyone’s body reacts differently to alcohol so make sure you do not drink to excess; 2.) Teach your children and grandchildren about the use of alcohol.

What about drinking in front of others? If you can drink alcohol in front of family, friends, and others without causing them to stumble, that’s fine. My caution here is that although you may not cause the other person to drink to excess, what about your Christian influence. If I lose my Christian influence with another person because of drinking alcohol, I believe I must refrain. For me I Corinthians 10:23-24 covers that: “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.” I believe God’s expectations of us are to think about others first.

You matter in this world. If you didn’t, God would have never put you here. You matter to other people, and they are observing you every day. Your children watch to see how Mom and Dad handle themselves because you are their model. The people you work with see how you handle hardship, what kind of jokes you tell, and especially your relationship with God. Other parents at sporting events watch your reactions to unfavorable calls or plays. You are being observed even though you may think otherwise. Yes, you have the right to live your life any way you want but be prayerful that you do not negatively affect people. You matter so much that God has entrusted other people to your influence. Let’s not disappoint God!



Excerpts from Stephen Altrogge used by permission. His entire article can be read at

Continue reading
  1196 Hits

Update on JD

In the article, What Do You Get Out of Being A Christian? I told some of JD’s story and his need for encouragement. Shortly after the article, I scheduled a visit with him but when I arrived, he was not allowed visitors. Two days later I received an email that he had been removed from the jail. No other information was available. About ten days later another notification came that JD was back in jail, so I scheduled another visit.

Visit on August 14 – JD was removed from jail to a mental health facility because he heard voices. He also admitted to another suicide attempt. We talked about other problems that have come up in his life. The jail will not allow him to be in a group setting so he cannot attend Bible study. A former inmate has a prison ministry through Riverside Church of Christ in Murfreesboro. He has visited JD in the past but has not been able to visit recently. JD asked me to get in touch with him to see if he could visit again. JD begged me to come more often. He’s had never done that before.

Visit on August 22 – JD seemed preoccupied yesterday. Maybe it was the medication he’s taking or he’s hearing voices again. He finally told me the reason his parents are not visiting. They packed up the other four children and moved to California about four months ago. I checked the visitation records with the jailer and for the last 2-3 months I have been his only visitor. JD is lonely.

In the article, I asked for notes from you about what you personally got out of being a Christian. Now, I would just like a note telling JD that you are praying for him or whatever you may wish to say. He needs to see that Christian people care about him in spite of what he’s done. Help him find that same hope you have. If you send an email to me, your name and email address will be cut off before it’s mailed to him. If you prefer, send a note to the church to my attention. The goal is to send him one note per week as long as they last. Please consider responding.



Proverbs 12:25 ESV Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.

Continue reading
  288 Hits



The following was in on my Facebook page this morning thanks to my neighbor, Jim Staiger. It’s a great read!


This is good. I'll never look at my hands the same! Grandpa, some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the patio bench. He didn't move, just sat with his head down staring at his hands. When I sat down beside him he didn't acknowledge my presence and the longer I sat, I wondered if he was OK. Finally, not really wanting to disturb him but wanting to check on him at the same time, I asked him if he was OK. He raised his head and looked at me and smiled. "Yes, I'm fine. Thank you for asking," he said in a clear strong voice. "I didn't mean to disturb you, Grandpa, but you were just sitting here staring at your hands and I wanted to make sure you were OK," I explained to him. "Have you ever looked at your hands," he asked. "I mean really looked at your hands?" I slowly opened my hands and stared down at them. I turned them over, palms up and then palms down. No, I guess I had never really looked at my hands as I tried to figure out the point he was making. Grandpa smiled and related this story: "Stop and think for a moment about the hands you have, how they have served you well throughout your years. These hands, though wrinkled, shriveled, and weak have been the tools I have used all my life to reach out and grab and embrace life. They put food in my mouth and clothes on my back. As a child my mother taught me to fold them in prayer. They tied my shoes and pulled on my boots. They have been dirty, scraped and raw, swollen and bent. They were uneasy and clumsy when I tried to hold my newborn son. Decorated with my wedding band they showed the world that I was married and loved someone special. They trembled and shook when I buried my parents and spouse and walked my daughter down the aisle. They have covered my face, combed my hair, and washed and cleansed the rest of my body. They have been sticky and wet, bent and broken, dried and raw. And to this day, when not much of anything else of me works real well, these hands hold me up, lay me down, and again continue to fold in prayer. These hands are the mark of where I've been and the ruggedness of my life. But more importantly it will be these hands that God will reach out and take when he leads me home. And with my hands He will lift me to His side and there I will use these hands to touch the face of Christ." I will never look at my hands the same again. But I remember God reached out and took my grandpa's hands and led him home. When my hands are hurt or sore I think of Grandpa. I know he has been stroked and caressed and held by the hands of God. I, too, want to touch the face of God and feel His hands upon my face. When you receive this, say a prayer for the person who sent it to you and watch God's answer to prayer work in your life. Let's continue praying for one another Passing this on to anyone you consider a friend will bless you both. Passing this on to one not considered a friend is something Christ would have done.

Continue reading
  1176 Hits

The Suffering of Christ


This past fall, we spent a few days with friends from Memphis. Sharon asked if I thought about death much. I believe most people of our age think about death more than we ever have. Although I don’t look forward to leaving my family, I do have the comfort of believing what the future holds. That’s why each morning as I pray, I give many thanks for Christ’s suffering for me. The different ways and the degree to which he suffered give a much better appreciation of just what he did for me. I wish my writing could do the justice to Christ’s suffering that’s warranted. If you are reading this article, put everything else out your mind and concentrate on how much Christ suffered for you. This is a paraphrase of what a speaker once said: “If you were the only sinner in this world, Christ would have still endured the same terrible death for you alone!” As I’m writing this, I’m struggling with getting the order of events correct so I finally decided the order of his torture is not as important as our understanding of how much he suffered.

We don’t know for how long his abuse and death had weighed on Jesus’ mind but it’s clear that before Judas led the soldiers to him that his mental anguish started. As he instituted the Lord’s supper, he revealed to his apostles that he was about to be betrayed. After they took the supper, he led his apostles, except for Judas, to the garden. He took Peter, Andrew and John deeper into the garden with him. Matthew records that “he began to be deeply distressed and troubled.” He admitted to the three apostles, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death.” Jesus fell face first to the ground and prayed that God delivers him from the torture and crucifixion. Did he fall face first out of his respect for God or his grief? Maybe, both. He prayed three times for God to spare him from the anguish and pain that were coming. Christ knew he was not only facing a cruel death but extreme abuse during the final six hours of his life. It’s recorded that his sweat became as great drops of blood. This phenomenon is called Hematidrosis, or bloody sweat is well documented. Under great emotional stress of the kind Christ suffered, tiny capillaries in the sweat glands can break, thus mixing blood and sweat. This process might well have produced great weakness and possible shock. Luke records that God sent an angel to strengthen Jesus.

Christ already knew his betrayer. Judas had been with Christ from the beginning of the apostles. He had heard Jesus’ teaching and seen the miracles he performed. Jesus even kneeled in front of Judas and washed his feet. Now Judas stood with him face to face and betrayed him with a kiss. What an emotional disappointment for Jesus! He was bound like a common criminal then led off for the trials and the abuse to begin.

The mental distress continued while Jesus waited in the courtyard of the high priest. His guards began to mock him. The physical pain started as the guards began to beat him. They hit with their fists and whips or flogs. The whips were made with pieces of bone and metal tied in the leather to make sure his flesh was torn. Most likely, Jesus was tied to a post where his back was exposed for the beating. Jewish law set the number of blows at 39 but the Romans had no such law, so we don’t know exactly how many blows he took. Many historians believe it was at least 39. During all this abuse, they added insult by spitting in Christ’s face. There is not much that would make me angrier than spitting in my face. It’s during this time in that courtyard that Peter denied three times he knew Christ. Although Jesus predicted Peter’s denial, it must have hurt emotionally.

The soldiers took Jesus away from Pilate to the Praetorium, where more soldiers continued to abuse him. It was here they placed a crown of thorns on his head. The crown was another way to mock Jesus’ sovereignty. The scholars disagree as to the number of thorns in the crown. Some say it makes absolutely no difference. Some writers say that the tradition in those times there were seventy-two thorns. If you’ve ever worked with bushes that have thorns, you can understand how much thorns hurt. The soldiers continued beating Jesus, especially on the head which drove the crown of thorns further into his scalp. They placed a scarlet robe on him and a staff in his hand to continue mocking him and spitting on him.

Not all the commentators agree that the following verses were written about Jesus, but, I think they were. The gospels did not report the severity of the beating Christ took but Isaiah 60:6 reports the following: "I offered my back to those who beat me, my cheeks to those who pulled out my beard; I did not hide my face from mocking and spitting."

Isaiah 52:14: "... Just as there were many who were appalled at him -- his appearance was so disfigured beyond that of any man and his form marred beyond human likeness--"

The words in Isaiah paint a very vivid picture of Christ’s suffering! The soldiers beat him so badly that his face was disfigured. It’s hard to imagine the pain endured from pulling his beard out.

John records that Jesus initially carried his own cross before they forced Simon to take it. It’s believed the cross was about 15 feet long and weighed 300 pounds. Some historians believe Jesus was carrying the crossbar of the cross (called a patibulum) across his shoulders. The crossbar probably weighed between 80 to 110 pounds. Either one was a huge load for a man who has been so severely beaten and lost so much blood. He was forced to walk 2.5 miles according to one historian, but others say just 695 yards before Simon took over. Some theorize that he may have fallen while going down the steps of the Antonio Fortress and it was then they pressed Simon to take over the carrying of the cross.

The historians differ on the size of the nails and the location on the body. The length was anywhere from 5 inches to 9 inches and about 3/8 of an inch in diameter. Medical historians believe the nails were driven between the two bones in the wrist while others stick to the palm of the hand. In ancient terminology the wrist was considered part of the hand. Some writers believe a nail was placed in each foot while others believe the feet overlapped and one nail was used. There are records of the nails being hammered through the heels. Regardless of the size and the placement of the nails, the pain must have been excruciating. After Jesus was nailed to the cross, the soldiers pushed it into the hole. It probably bounced around until it finally settled in the hole. The bouncing would have caused extreme anguish by tearing the flesh.

Some believe that death by crucifixion is the most painful death ever invented. It was used for the worst of the worst criminals. It was a horribly slow way to die. Psalm 22:14-15 tells us how bad Jesus’ physical shape was: "I am poured out like water, and all my bones are out of joint. My heart has turned to wax; it has melted away within me. My strength is dried up like a potsherd, and my tongue sticks to the roof of my mouth; you lay me in the dust of death." A potsherd is a broken piece of ceramic material, especially one found on an archaeological site. Jesus had no strength to deal with his pain.

When the cross was erected upright, there was tremendous strain put on the wrists, arms, and shoulders, resulting in a dislocation of the shoulder and elbow joints. The arms, being held up and outward, held the rib cage in a fixed position which made it extremely difficult to exhale, and impossible to take a full breath. The sagging of his body made breathing extremely hard so he would try to push upwards with his legs to expand his diaphragm and catch a full breath. Jesus would only be able to take very shallow breaths. This may explain why Jesus made very short statements while on the cross. As time passed, the muscles, from the loss of blood, insufficient oxygen, and the fixed position of the body, would undergo severe cramps and spasmodic contractions. Eventually, fluid builds up in the lungs; the heart is stressed and eventually fails, ending Jesus’ life.

The scripture tell us that when the soldiers came to break Jesus legs to hasten his death, they found that he was already dead. They speared his side bringing out blood and water. Medical writers believe the spear was thrust into Jesus’s heart from the right side to insure death.

Having suffered severe blood losses from his numerous beatings and thus in a dehydrated state, Jesus, in one of his final statements, said: "I thirst." He was offered two drinks on the cross. The first, which he refused, was a drugged wine (mixed with myrrh). He chose to face death without a clouded mind.

Dr. Terasaka writes, "It was a merciful Jewish practice to give to those led to execution a draught of strong wine mixed with myrrh so as to deaden consciousness. The draught was offered to Jesus when He reached Golgotha. But having tasted it...He would not drink it.....He would meet Death, even in his sternest and fiercest mood, and conquer by submitting to the full..... The second drink, which He accepts moments before His death, is described as a wine vinegar.”

Isaiah 59:22: “But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear.” It seems as though as our sins fell on Jesus that God turned his face from Jesus, creating Jesus’ feelings of being forsaken. His feeling of being forsaken adds to the cruelty of the entire event for me.

Several verses in the Bible let us know that God has emotions. God watched the final six hours of his son’s life, causing him anguish. To hear your son ask why you forsook him must have broken his heart. It would have mine.

I Peter 3:15 tells us always to be prepared to give a reason for the hope we have. Most writers say that our hope comes from the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ. I say that Christ’s extreme suffering, death, burial, and resurrection is my hope!

Enduring the savage treatment Christ received is almost unthinkable. He suffered all this for our sins. Be grateful!

I use to play a game with my children when they were young. I asked them how much I loved them placing my hands a foot apart and they said “No”. I continued moving my hands asking “this much” until they were as far out as I could reach before they finally said “Yes”. For Father’s day one year they gave a framed calligraphy which reads;

I asked Jesus

How much do

You love me?

And Jesus said

“this much”

and He stretched

out his arms

Continue reading
  1029 Hits

In The Grip Of Grace

In an earlier article, we looked at the fact that God’s grace saves us. Now I want to look at grace from a different angle. As I research the internet, many religious leaders have passed their judgments on who receives God’s grace. On FaceBook, people do not just share their religious beliefs but pass harsh judgments on others for their beliefs. It seems as if some people view themselves as God’s advisors on granting grace. He is capable without our assistance.

How far does God’s grace reach? Some people believe it stretches far enough to cover themselves, families, and friends. They are not so sure who else it may stretch to cover but feel pretty comfortable that they personally are under the canopy of grace. They are not as willing to share God’s grace with others as much as I believe he is. Maybe, just maybe it covers you and me if we believe as they do.

I attended church several years ago with a man who I’ll describe as the ultimate legalist. I was using Max Lucado material in my classes to which he objected. Lucado taught too much error, according to Aubrey. Aubrey was a believer in using Johnson’s and Clarke’s commentaries as his reference material. I asked him if he ever thought these men might be wrong in their beliefs and interpretations of the Bible. The answer was, “yes.” My question to, Aubrey: “why would grace extend to Mr. Johnson and Mr. Clarke and not to Max Lucado?”

After a mission trip to Mexico, I told the class about the way the church there served communion. The leader handed the servers the bread, then prayed. Next, the cups were handed to the servers, and once again, the leader prayed before both the emblems were passed to the congregation at the same time. Aubrey said this was wrong and further explained that the church in Mexico should adopt the manner we used. The correct manner was to pray for the bread pass it to the congregation and then pray for the juice and pass it. He stated that the church in Mexico was in error.

After Aubrey’s comment on communion, we read Luke’s account of the last supper. Luke reports that Christ took the cup first and the bread second. Is God concerned with the order we pass the emblems or the condition of our hearts as we partake? He’s looking for praise and thankfulness for the sacrifice of Jesus’ body and his blood. I don’t believe he is disappointed by the order.

Aubrey was a good man, kind, a strong Christian in his convictions, but his reply to how far does God’s grace reach was, “not that far.” He tended to be selfish with God’s grace.

In The Grip Of Grace, Max Lucado writes about the conversion of Jefferey Dahmer. Mr. Dahmer was a vile human being if you can call him a human being. He was convicted of killing seventeen men and boys even cannibalizing some of his victims. Mr. Dahmer found God in prison, put his faith in Christ, and was baptized. Does God’s grace cover Jeffrey Dahmer? Max writes: “Our response? (Dare we say it?) We cross our arms and furrow our brows and say, God, won’t let you off that easy. Not after what you did. God is kind, but he’s no wimp. Grace is for the average sinners like me, not deviants like you.”

Paul writes to the church Rome about the wickedness of man. These wicked people knew God but had no relationship with him. Paul then, in Romans 2:1 cautions the church about passing judgment on others because they too are guilty of some of the same sins. Max says the church in Rome is “filtering God’s grace with their own opinion.” They are “diluting God’s mercy with their prejudice.” Max points out the prodigal son’s brother refused to attend his brother’s feast to celebrate his return. The attitude of the ten-hour worker was selfishness because the one-hour worker got the same wage. Judgment was passed on God’s grace by these two men. They decided that prodigal son and the one-hour worker were not worthy of God’s grace. None of us are that’s why it’s called grace.

Max writes: “The keyword here is judges. It’s one thing to have an opinion. It’s quite another to pass a verdict. It’s one thing to have a conviction; it’s another to convict the person. It’s one thing to be repulsed at the acts of Jeffrey Dahmer (and I am.) It’s another to entirely claim that I am superior (I’m not) or that he is beyond the grace of God (no one is.)”

I believe that baptism is essential to our salvation. A lady I worked with several years ago asked me about my religious beliefs. A brief version of what I told her is: God is the father, Jesus is his son and the only way to God, baptism is essential and commitment to serve God. Her reaction was: “you just told me that I’m going to hell because I’m not baptized.” My reply: “ NO! you asked me what I believed, and I told you. God is the only one that can decide where you spend eternity!” He alone decides how far his grace reaches.

When I was about 8 or 9 one of the elders’ sons, Derry, age 16, decided to be baptized. There was a complication. Derry was deathly afraid of water. Our baptistry held way too much water for Derry. One evening Derry’s father called all the other elders to his home to witness Derry’s baptism in their bathtub. Many people in the congregation did not accept Derry’s baptism because there was certainly no way his dad got his entire body under the water in a bathtub! The baptism was, therefore, not scriptural, and grace would not extend to Derry according to the legalist. I tell the story because of the impression it left on me. If one of Derry’s toes did not make it all the way under was there a problem? Is God that legalistic with his grace? If he is, then I wanted to make sure Brother James got every square inch of my body pushed under the water when he baptized me.

Baptism has much to do with the condition of the heart. The water holds no spiritual magic. The words pronounced before the immersion have no saving grace. Even the person performing the baptism holds no power of grace. My obedience to God in the act of baptism and my commitment to serve him invite his grace into my life. He alone decides about my grace! No one else holds that right!

I don’t know how far God’s grace extends, so I’m unwilling to make a judgment about what’s not mine to give. We need to teach about Jesus and his saving grace. Share with them our beliefs in love and let them reach their own decision to be a Christian. If God is unwilling to shove his grace down someone’s throat, then I am not willing. The Bible teaches us that when a brother strays to restore one another with gentleness, not with harsh judgment.

Be bold in telling the story of Jesus and him crucified for our sins, not in making a judgment. Study the Bible with them to help them grow their relationship with God and Christ! Let God decide on grace!

When we get to heaven, we’ll be surprised at some of the folks we see. And some of them will be surprised when they see us. Max Lucado

God Bless You!



In the Grip of Grace by Max Lucado – Published by Word Publishing – Used with permission

His Grace Reaches Me

Deeper than the ocean and wider than the sea,

Is the grace of the Savior for sinners like me;

Sent from the Father and it thrills my soul,

Just to feel and to know

That His blood makes me whole.

Higher than the mountains and brighter than the sun,

It was offered at Calvary for everyone;

Greatest of treasures and it's mine today,

Though my sins were as scarlet,

He has washed them away.


His grace reaches me

And 'twill last thru eternity;

Now I'm under His control

And I'm happy in my soul,

Just to know that His grace reaches me.

Continue reading
  1454 Hits

What Do You Get Out of Being a Christian?

I’ve written before about this young man, JD; I worked with through CASA. We met three years ago this month. He was brought to Murfreesboro from a lockdown facility to meet with his family. He was in leg irons. The DCS worker apologized for the leg irons, but JD had run on him several times.

In January 2017, JD and three friends were trying to buy drugs from two dealers. His story is that all six people involved were carrying guns. The two drug dealers pulled their guns first and fired on him and his friends. The result was one drug dealer killed by a shot to the head and the other one wounded in the leg. JD found himself in adult jail at age 17 charged with first-degree murder, attempted first-degree murder and three other related felonies. When I asked his former attorney if the State would seek the death penalty, he gave me a frustrated look. His answer “not for killing a drug dealer.” JD has celebrated two birthdays in jail, fought off at least two attempted rapes, contemplated and tried suicide, and spent many days in solitary for bad behavior. About a month ago, the family of the man killed sent word to JD that as soon as he went to prison, they would have him killed.

During our visit last week, he had great news. The ballistics report had finally come back, and the bullets that killed the drug dealer did not come from JD’s gun. The dealer’s “homeboy” killed him. JD believes he’s going home soon. I did not have the heart to ask about the other charges which will probably stick. One of his charge partners relayed all this information to him. Why didn’t this news come from JD’s attorney? He asked me to put money in his phone account so that he could call his parents and his attorney. He claims his parents have not come for a visit since he’s been in jail. He only talks with them by phone when he has money in his phone account. They seem to have never put any money into his account.

From conversations with former inmates who now have a prison ministry, I’m suspicious that JD has found another way to ask for money for his phone account. The inmates pick up many additional bad habits in jail. They develop an attitude about “what’s in it for me.” His attorney has not answered my email, asking him to verify JD’s claims about the ballistics report. It may be a violation of attorney/client privileges.

When I left JD last week, he wanted assurance that I would visit him again. Two days later, one of his fellow inmates called me to let me know JD was in solitary. JD owed this guy money and requested that I put money in his commissary account to repay him. A scam? My prayers, visits, and encouragement in letters seem to have no effect. I talked to JD bout one of the ladies at church corresponding with him. She has a history of successfully working with inmates. He promised to respond. He never did! I’ve contemplated several times to stop writing and visiting JD. Are my contemplations the devil’s work? I just cannot seem to walk away from him!

How do I get JD to understand what being a Christian would do for him? At times, I believe we give people the wrong idea. “If you become a Christian, everything will be fine!” If he does build a relationship with God and Christ, he will still be in jail, celebrate more birthdays there, he’ll have to fight off rapists, and maybe he’ll contemplate and try suicide again, or maybe drug dealer’s family will still try to have him killed. Remember his attitude of “what’s in it for me” if I become a Christian? My simple answer is forgiveness of sins through the sacrifice of Christ’s body and blood, which means eternal life with God and Jesus. This requires faith! Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things unseen according to Hebrews 11:1. Salvation is intangible, so there is nothing you can see or hold JD! There are many other advantages, but you must have faith! Bible study can help increase your faith.

JD has told me that he believes there is a God, but I have doubts that he has ever studied the Bible before jail. He says he attends a Bible study every week. The letters that I’ve sent have included Bible verses as an encouragement. The jail does not allow inmates to have the original letter. The inmates view it on a kiosk screen. There is a limit on how many pages the jailers will copy, but no one seems to know the magic number. It appears to be up to the jailer's discretion at the time. I’ve decided on my next visit to ask what he’s learned from his Bible study.

How would you answer the question? What Do You Get Out of Being a Christian? I decided to put this question into a search engine on the internet. The answers were very wide and some far fetched to me. Some listed the disadvantages as well. One article claimed that a gentleman in the late 1800s received the Holy Spirit and produced over 100,000 healings as a result.

I had planned to list several advantages for your consideration but changed my plans. I would like your input. I want to send a series of short “letters” to JD with the advantages you feel you received from being a Christian. Hopefully, knowing people responded just for him will encourage him. If I can use your name, that will add to the effect. If you prefer to be anonymous, that’s OK but at least let me use your initials. Please send me an email with your greatest advantage or advantages. I will print it and mail it right away. Your email address will not appear in the “letter” sent to him. Your email address will never be used again and will be deleted after I use it. If you prefer, send a note to my attention to Southside Church of Christ, 108 NARROWS ROAD, SHELBYVILLE TN 37160

A few weeks ago, I published an article on Boldness. I see this as an opportunity to be bold and affect a young man’s life. Please, please respond! What does JD need most? People who will influence him to have a close, loving, and obedient relationship with God!

Please pray for JD!!


Mike Clement

Continue reading
  1114 Hits

Obstacles and Challenges to My Faith

Satan is ever present in our lives. Satan, the devil, the evil one, Beelzebub, Lucifer, or whatever you want to call him is at the root of all obstacles to our faith. He never takes a day off. Many times, it feels like he is working overtime on me. Sometimes he comes at us head-on, at times he sneaks into our minds and often he uses other people to do his work. He pleads his case by saying go ahead and sin, after all, it’s fun and makes us feel good. Unbelievers test our faith by insisting if there is a God, why does he let bad things happen to those who believe in him. Even believers create doubts when they maintain that some teachings in the Bible are outdated and do not apply to modern society. Satan’s sole desire is to come between God and us to drag us down to hell with him. The devil knows that being a committed Christian is often a struggle, and he uses those times to do much of his work. That’s why he spends so much time and energy on us. His disciples and those that do not want a relationship with God do not take much of his effort. He already has them headed down the road to hell. Romans 7:21, “So I’ve discovered this truth: Evil is present with me even when I want to do what God’s standards say is good.”

Living a Christian life is sometimes complicated, and God understands that. Isaiah 55:8-9 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. 9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” The mind of God and his ways are sometimes mysterious to me. Understanding God’s mind and his ways are not necessary; all that’s needed is faith. We need to put our hearts in his hands and fully trust that he knows best. He always got our backs.

If a Christian life is what God wants for us, then why does he allow the devil to work against us? Testing us is a means of increasing our faith. 1 Peter 1:6-7 “… for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kind of trails. These come so that your faith-of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire-may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” You may be thinking, “but, He is God and could have chosen an easier way to grow our faith.” The only explanation I can offer you is Isaiah 55, 1 Peter 1, and Proverbs 3:5 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding." FAITH!

Ever had doubts whether God really loves you? I’m in so much pain from this disease, my marriage is so unhappy, my children cause so much stress and disappointment, I have such a difficult time at work, bills keep mounting up, these drugs and alcohol are controlling my life. I live in anxiety, depression, and extreme frustration. Some people struggle with the permanence of a commitment to a wife, children, a job, and other relationships in their lives. They see these commitments as an obligation they must deal with every day. The relationship with God carries a heavy burden for them and they grow weary of what they see as the constant pressures of being a Christian. Satan throws obstacles in front of each of us without exception. No one is exempt. The person sitting on the same row as you, in front of you and behind you at church struggles with obstacles. Even the man standing in the pulpit faces his struggles. Satan is after everyone! The devil is at work, causing your doubts.

God never promises a painless, trouble-free life. He does promise in Deuteronomy 31:6, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you”; “He will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31: 8, The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. “Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” FAITH will discourage and defeat Satan temporality. Remember, he will keep coming after you with some obstacle to your faith. Luke 4 records the temptation of Christ. Versed 13 says: “When the devil had finished all this tempting, he left him until an opportune time.” Satan returned in various ways through the Pharisees, Sadducees, and Satan filled people who challenged Christ. One commentator writes: “No matter how badly mauled Satan is, or however strongly he's opposed, he won't admit defeat and insists he can yet find a way to defeat us.”

The following are excerpts from an article written by Matt Nelson on the website Word on Fire.

“Remember: If our faith is weak, it may not be obvious when life is going smoothly, and we aren’t challenged in any way. But when hard times come, a weak faith will be revealed for what it really is: shallow and unable to help us through life’s difficulties. It may be anything: an unexpected illness, the death of a loved one, the loss of our job, or even a friend who turns against us. But when hard times happen, the true nature of our faith will be revealed.

None of us likes to go through hard times (and God isn’t necessarily behind them, even if He does allow them). But God can use them to show us our weaknesses. And when that happens, we need to ask God to help our faith grow. Testing should make us spiritually stronger — and it will as we turn it over to God. The Bible says, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials … so that you may be mature and complete” (James 1:2, 4).

Christianity is hard because it aims to soften hearts. One of the tough facts of Christianity is that we must face up to the fact that we are fallen. We are often not what we ought to be. G.K. Chesterton writes: “One of the chief uses of religion is that it makes us remember our coming from darkness, the simple fact that we are created” (from The Boston Sunday Post).

What makes Christianity hard is that it reminds us of our imperfections. We are much too prideful to enjoy such a thing—and this, I fear, is where the skeptic checks out. The skeptic robs himself of the opportunity to encounter the Good News. Chesterton famously remarked: “The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting; it has been found difficult and left untried” (Chapter 5, What’s Wrong with the World).

A Christian who thinks he can be a saint without suffering in this world is mistaken. This begs the question: “Who would choose such an unhappy life?” In God in the Dock, the former atheist C.S. Lewis responded to this question by remarking: “I didn’t go to religion to make me happy. I always knew a bottle of Port would do that. If you want a religion to make you feel really comfortable, I certainly don’t recommend Christianity.”

It is true that Christianity does not exist to make us happy. But it does exist to make us joyful. Peter Kreeft, who some believe is the “C.S. Lewis of our times,” makes the following distinction: “Joy is more than happiness, just as happiness is more than pleasure. Pleasure is in the body. Happiness is in the mind and feelings. Joy is deep in the heart” (from Joy).

The Gospel is an invitation to life everlasting from the Everlasting Man—and with life everlasting comes joy everlasting. Christ promises us that “no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man conceived, what God has prepared for those who love him.”

Even though I lay a great deal of the blame at the devil’s feet for the obstacles and struggles we face, we must be complicit with him for him to succeed to hinder us in our relationship with God. God allows the devil to throw the obstacles in our way. But God does restrict the devil: 1 Corinthians 10:13, “There isn't any temptation that you have experienced which is unusual for humans. God, who faithfully keeps his promises, will not allow you to be tempted beyond your power to resist. But when you are tempted, he will also give you the ability to endure the temptation as your way of escape”.

Satan is an opportunist and unfortunately a very good one. He knows where we are weakest and when he sees an opportunity, he jumps at the chance. We are in a war for our souls! What do I do about the obstacles and struggles that Satan puts in my way?

Study: 2 Timothy 3:16-17, "All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work." Whatever your struggle, read the Scriptures that will help you get through this episode.

Pray: 1 Thessalonians 5:17 encourages us to pray without ceasing. In the different versions pray without ceasing, pray constantly, pray without stopping, pray continually are used. We obviously cannot pray 24/7, but we can have the attitude of prayer in our hearts and minds. Ask God to prepare you to fight Satan. When Satan throws up an obstacle, ask God for help finding the escape.

Surround yourself with Christians: 1Thessalonians 5:11: “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” Proverbs 27:17: “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” Col 3:16: “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.” In times of weakness, we need to be able to lean on one another.

Get a prayer partner: I’m not writing from personal experience, but I’m praying about this. James 5:16 “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective." I will confess to you all day long that I’m a sinner, but admitting what my sins are is a real problem. A prayer partner will provide encouragement knowing that someone is offering up a prayer for you when you struggle. I’ve never known anyone who has a prayer partner. If you have one now or have ever had one, please let me know about your experience.

Stop and realize what’s happening! In a previous paragraph, I wrote that for Satan to be effective that we must be complicit. If you have a struggle with alcohol, then do not put yourself in a position where Satan can work against you. That goes for every possible struggle whatever it may be. 1 Thessalonians 5:22 “Keep away from every kind of evil.”

As I look at our struggles and obstacles, we have two choices: fight Satan or give in to him. Often people grow weary with struggling against Satan. In his book “On the Anvil”, Max Lucado writes about former New York Supreme Court Judge name Joseph Crater who grew weary and disappeared one night. “Weariness is tough. I don’t mean the physical weariness that comes with mowing the lawn or the mental weariness that follows a hard day of decisions and thinking. No, the weariness that attacked Judge Carter is much worse. It’s the weariness just before you give up. The feeling of honest desperation. It’s the dispirited father, the abandoned child, or the retiree with time on his hands. It’s the stage in life when motivation disappears; the children grow up; a job lost; a wife dies. The result is weariness---deep, lonely, frustrated weariness.

Only one man in history has claimed to have an answer for it. He stands before all the Joseph Carters of the world with the same promise: “Come to me, all you who are weary… and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28.”

Make a choice. One leads to an eternal life with God who loves us and the other leads to eternal life with satan who cares nothing about us.

If I can pray for you, send me an email. You do not have to provide the particulars. Just ask for prayers. It’s between you and me! This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

The elders at Southside would love the opportunity to pray with you and for you. Contact them and I guarantee you will have five men who will pray about your obstacles and struggles. During my health struggles, they have always prayed for me. James 5:16: “When a righteous person prays, that prayer carries great power.”


Matt Nelson thoughts printed by permission.

On the Anvil by Max Lucado – Tyndale House Publishing – 1985 – Used with permission

Continue reading
  1272 Hits


There are several scriptures in the Bible, directing us to be bold in teaching the Word and influencing others for God. There are also references to boldness in approaching God in prayer.

Acts 4:31 Peter and John were released from the Sanhedrin council, prayed and then were filled with the Holy Spirit. They spoke the word of God boldly.

Acts 28:31 “Proclaiming the kingdom of God and teaching about the Lord Jesus Christ with all boldness and without hindrance.”

2 Corinthians 3:12 “Therefore, since we have such a hope, we are bold.”

2 Timothy 1:7 “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and self-discipline.”

Hebrews 4:16 “Let us, therefore, come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.”

Ephesians 3:12 “In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence.” NIV

Ephesians 3:12 “In whom we have boldness and access with confidence through faith in Him.” NKJV

Thayer's Greek Lexicon gives the Greek word for bold as ̓parrhēsia and defines it:

1) freedom in speaking, unreservedness in speech: 1a) openly, frankly, i.e., without concealment; 1b) without ambiguity or circumlocution; 2) free and fearless confidence, cheerful courage, boldness, assurance.

Boldness, which literally means "freedom from timidity" or "liberty" according to Webster's 1828 dictionary, is a basic character trait every Christian should possess.

One commentator believes that the boldness spoken of in Hebrews 4 is approaching God with respect, but the boldness comes in by demanding he fulfill his promises. He writes that we should remind God of his promises, even quoting the scriptures to him. That stretches boldness too far for my comfort. Be bold in asking for God’s mercy and grace is what I get from Hebrews. Rick Renner writes that we should pray with boldness and confidence. He uses the NKJV. Being confident that God listens to us and making demands is very different

James 4:2-3 tells us that we do not receive because we do not ask, and we ask for the wrong motives. I believe we can be bold by asking God for anything, but we must have the right heart.

Boldness is an absolute necessity for us to be able to accomplish the things that God expects of us. It is needed when we attempt to teach about God and Jesus. It is necessary when we are going to speak up for those who can't speak for themselves.

Boldness about God and Christ is not an in your face attitude. Boldness is not rudeness by condemning others to hell to get their attention. That is self-righteousness thinking that you have the responsibility to judge others. That kind of “boldness” turns people away from what you have to say about God and Jesus.

You may be timid, shy, and awkward in social situations. Maybe you don't mix well in groups and are not outgoing. You are not the first to approach someone you don’t know. 2 Corinthians says because we have hope through Jesus, we can be bold when teaching about Him. 2 Timothy tells us that God did not give us timidity but power, love, and self-discipline when teaching about Jesus.

These verses do not mean that you must start walking up to everyone and telling them about Jesus. You do not have to shout from the mountain top about Jesus. 1 Peter 3:15 tells us always to be prepared to give people the reason for our hope. I believe God will provide opportunities to tell about our hope through Jesus, and we must be ready and be bold to explain our hope. Yes, you must overcome your timidity, shyness, awkwardness, and especially fear of rejection when serving God. Some people will not want to hear what you have to say. Always keep in your mind that Jesus was not timid as he suffered for you! Surely, we can suffer through some discomfort and uneasiness considering what he suffered.

Recent experiences with bold people:

I was buying a product in a retail store and needed some information about it. After apologizing for my speech, I asked my question, and the clerk answered it. She then wanted to know what happened to my speech. When she found out it was due to a stroke, she told me about her aunt, who was a stroke survivor. Her name was Brenda and wanted to know if it would be Ok to pray for me. She asked for my name. I told her “Mike, no not Mac so I spelled M I K E.” People often hear “Mac” when I pronounce my name. Many times, I just let it go, but if she is going to pray for me, I want to make she has the correct name! I said “sure” thinking she meant in her private prayers. Brenda began praying for me right at the checkout counter. Although somewhat taken back, I appreciated her boldness. She cares about God and his people.

I was standing outside the courtroom one morning talking with the father of one of my CASA boys. The boy had just been told that he had one more chance. This time he was going to a lockdown facility for boys. The next appearance before the judge for any violation would send him to prison. A lady interrupted our conversation. She wanted to know if he was just up in front of the judge with his son. I was aggravated at the interruption. The father said “yes,” then she asked for permission to pray for both the boy and the father. He gave her permission, and she immediately prayed. My aggravation left me, and I appreciated her boldness.

These two ladies did not ask about our religious beliefs nor ask for us to study the Bible with them but demonstrated that they are believers. Is this the kind of boldness that the Bible speaks about? I believe that it is a form of boldness. The apostles were bold in preaching about Christ. We all do not have that talent, but we can be bold in other means by demonstrating that we are believers. You might not be comfortable praying for someone in at the checkout counter or outside of court but letting them know they will be in your prayers does take boldness for some people.

I’m working on my boldness. When people ask about my speech, I tell them about the stroke. My speech was worse than it is now, I had no control over my right side, very little fine motor skills, could not walk, could not swallow anything but liquids, etc. I could have died or been an invalid, but God rescued me. I want them to know that God really blessed me! For me, this being bold.

At the conclusion of a meeting with my CASA families, I ask them if it’s alright to end the meeting with a prayer. This, for me, is boldness. This is not easy for me. Most of these people believe that there is a God but have no relationship with him. A number of these people have arrest records primarily for drugs and are hard as nails. I’m not physically intimidated, but often they sneer when I mention praying. At times I’ve allowed the previous sneers to keep me from praying again. After studying for this article, I decided not to let their attitudes keep from suggesting that we pray for them. I’m not where I hope to be, but I am working on my boldness. Sneers for me versus suffering on the cross for Jesus, I can take it!

We sing a song at Southside, “Do You Know My Jesus?” I especially appreciate the third verse: “Who knows your disappointments, Who hears each time you cry; Who understands your heartaches, Who dries the tears from your eyes?” The chorus asks: “Do you know my Jesus, Do you know my friend, Have you heard He loves you, And that He will abide till the end?” If someone I know answers these questions with a “No” then I have not been BOLD enough!

For those of you who have read other articles I have posted, you would be shocked if I did not use a Max Lucado quote. Here it is:

*“If you know God's grace, love boldly, live robustly. Swing from the trapeze; his safety net will break your fall. #LiveLoved” I need to remember this if I question whether or not to bold.



*Printed by permission from Max Lucado’s website


Continue reading
  1245 Hits

What’s My Responsibility to You?


This article is a follow-up to What God Calls Us To Be.

On August 18, 1988, George H. W. Bush received his party's nomination for president of the United States. In his acceptance speech, he calls for a "kinder, gentler nation." Unfortunately, over the past 30+ years, we have not become kinder nor gentler. The state of uncivility that presently exists seems to be worse than ever. At one time, you could read an article online about any subject of your choosing and then write your thoughts in the comments section. People are so intolerant of others; they have become nastier and nastier in their comments towards others. Sometimes calling people, they don’t even know names. Most of the news feeds have stopped allowing comments. People point their fingers at many different causes of uncivility, but regardless of where the blame is laid, we must accept responsibility for our actions, especially towards others.

It has been generally accepted by most people that we have a responsibility to respect one another and treat others like we want to be treated. When I was young, it was called the Golden Rule. This is the principle from the Bible: “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 7:12)

As Christians, we have a much deeper responsibility to one another than just being civil. We are to be God’s instruments; therefore, we have a duty to influence others for God. He expects this from us. God’s commands are our guidance for treatment of others. What does God say about our responsibility towards one another? Look at a few of God’s instructions in the following verses.

Matthew 22:37-39 – We are instructed by Jesus to love one another. There are many passages in the Bible about loving one another. A good one is I Corinthians 13. I can have all kinds of talents and gifts, but if I don’t love, it means nothing. Love is kind, patient, not envious, not boastful, not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, does not become angry easily, does not remember wrongs done to us, does not find joy in evil things, rejoices in the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. Love will never fail when I am trying to influence someone for God. I provide the love, and God will do the rest!

Galatians 6:10: “Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.”

This entire chapter is guidance to our relationship with others and our attitude toward our responsibilities. We constantly have opportunities to do good by displaying a Christian attitude to others every time we have contact with them. Paul says, to do good to ALL people. He does not make exceptions. Does Paul mean everybody? The only noted exception is to make sure to treat those who are believers as special people. At church, even though we may only have a moment with one another, that’s an important moment. Others note my presence to worship, and a warm greeting continues my positive influence. Why would I act otherwise; after all, they are in the family of believers?

Many commentators believe this verse is an instruction on helping those in need. At Southside, we help many people in need, but believers come first.

Colossians 3:12-17:  Paul’s instruction tells us that as God’s chosen people, we are to show compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, and to bear or put up with one another. (Kay tells me that putting up with me is a tall order). We are reminded to forgive one another as the Lord forgave us. If God can forgive a sinner like me, who am I not to forgive others? Show peace in our hearts and teach, admonish one another and whatever we do, commit it to the Lord Jesus. This is all about my responsibility to act as an influence on you as a Christian. If I demonstrate to you these characteristics with a commitment to God in my heart, what happens now is in God’s hands.

Matthew 7:1-5: Jesus instructs us on passing judgment on one another. Passing judgment means to declare someone guilty and pass on them a sentence – like a judge does in a court. Some people decide they need to help God and are willing to let you know that hell is in your future. This duty is reserved for God (James 4:12).

There are many passages offering instruction on admonishing one another, correcting one another and bringing someone back into the church. This a very delicate responsibility. Often when people are approached about correction they need in their lives, their response is Matthew 7, “Don’t you dare judge me until you take care of all your problems!” Frankly, we would have to be very close for me to approach you in this manner. I do not feel it’s a talent I have, so I would pray about you and let you know.  It’s very easy to rationalize my way out of responsibilities by claiming no talent. Is this a cop-out? Probably, so I need to be bold in Christ and approach you in love, not judgment. Otherwise, what do I tell God on judgment day?

Romans 12:9-21: Paul repeats several the Christian characteristics that we have already reviewed. He does add love must be sincere, honor one another above ourselves, practice hospitality, bless those who persecute us, be willing to associate with those in a low position, do not be conceited, do not look for revenge and live in peace with everyone.

1 Timothy 2:1: First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people,

Matthew 5:44:

But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you

The preceding verses teach me that you are to be in my prayers. If I am aware that you have a need, then I’m to go to God on your behalf. That’s a lot of responsibility, especially expecting me to pray for my enemies. As I think about my prayers, most are for my family, friends, and Southside members. There are maybe two folks I pray for who I do not like (no one at Southside). Thinking about people who are not my enemies and do not necessarily persecute me but are rude, egotistical, and sometimes hateful, I can expand my prayer list. This is a responsibility!

Should we treat people differently based on their relationship with us in life? Should our treatment of family differ from friends, fellow Christians, and work colleagues? What about those that are in authority? Does a person’s status in life make a difference in how we should treat them? 

The general answer is “NO” to all these questions but I Timothy 5:8 tells us – “But if any do not take care of their relatives, especially the members of their own family, they have denied the faith and are worse than an unbeliever.” Responsibility for the family is a must!

This a lot of responsibility and yes, I fail in carrying these out. That’s Satan's work. But God’s work of sacrificing Jesus for my failures trumps Satan’s work!

We could look at many more verses that give more responsibilities to one another, but it’s time to bring this to a conclusion. What a wonderful world for us to live in if we accepted these responsibilities and put them into practice. Polls show that people select the church they attend because they are primarily looking for sermons straight from the Bible and about the same percentage say they are looking for the feeling of being accepted. I believe they get both at Southside. My question is: Am I living up to my responsibilities outlined in the verses given?

Folks, we need to fulfill our responsibilities to one another.

Consider the following words from Max Lucado:

Discover this mystery: as you help others face their days, you put life into your own. And life is exactly what many people need.

One of the secrets in life is that we really lead a better life when we're living for others than we do when we're living for ourselves, and I think that's the way for our creator intended for it to be, is that if we can live for other people, we really leave this world in a different way.



Max Lucado quotes from this website:

Continue reading
  1204 Hits

What God Calls Us to Be


This study calls for objectivity in self-examination. Satan will skew our objectivity because he does not want us to grow and improve as Christians. Be honest with yourself and especially with God. He will bless your efforts to be what he wants us to be! There are over fifty characteristics, attitudes, and responsibilities of our faith written about in the Bible.  

Think about the following questions as you study this list. Are these characteristics God’s wish list or expectations? Why does he want me to have and use these? Does he expect me to be able to achieve every one of these? Do they all hold equal value to God? Why are these so important to him?

As you read these characteristics and actions, measure yourself, not your spouse nor anyone else. Do not compare yourself with some else, “Well, I know I’m better than…”. God will not compare your successes or failures to another one of his children. We stand on our own. The following is from NewCREEation Ministries:

“Comparing yourself with others to measure your success is unwise. It can puff you up with pride, lull you into complacency, or lead you into discouragement and depression. Besides, you don't know what's going on in that other person's heart. From God's perspective, they may be doing much better or worse than it appears to you. The only accurate way to measure your success is to use God's standard: faithfulness. Are you doing what you know God told you to do? Your responsibility is to be faithful and obedient. God is the one who provides the increase. So, the results are on Him anyway. Check your focus. Are you looking at those who are way ahead, or way behind you? Instead, fix your eyes on Jesus, the author, and finisher of your faith.”

For we dare not count or compare ourselves with those, who commend themselves. They who measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another are not wise. — 2 Corinthians 10:12 (MEV)

Many of these characteristics are laid out as fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5:22: “But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law.”

The fruits of the spirit are the Holy Spirit’s cultivation of character in our heart. He is working to make us more Christ-like.  Some of the writers were very adamant that we must CHOOSE to have and demonstrate these characteristics in our lives. To claim we have these in our heart without demonstrating them is of no value to God or ourselves.

Love: Matthew 22:37-39 – Jesus instructs the apostles that love for God is the greatest commandment then love for our neighbor comes right after that. The Greek word used in Matthew and Galatians is agape, which is unconditional love. Many commentators believe it also means a powerful love that calls for action and sacrifice on behalf of others. This love is not just a warm fuzzy feeling in our heart, hoping for the best for others but requires us to take action on someone else’s behalf. That’s easy to do for our family and friends but what about that person that we detest?  Some people in our lives are arrogant, selfish, mean spirited, and the list can go on, but there is no list of exceptions that excuses us from loving. The best way to love those you dislike is to pray for them. It’s hard not to have a love for people while praying for them. Then pray for your attitude about love.  You still may have a problem liking them, but maybe your prayers will help you both change.

Joy: The word used here is not the joy we receive from earthly pleasures but is the joy we receive from a loving and obedient relationship with God. Psalms 94:19 - “When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.” If you don’t have joy in your heart from being a Christian, then examine yourself to find out why. Something needs fixing!

Peace: The word means the tranquility of our heart, which comes from knowing that our lives are in the hands of God. This tranquility is not a feeling that sorrow will never come into our lives, but the peace of knowing God cares for us and has a plan for us. If we do not have this peace, then maybe our relationship with God and willingness to accept his will needs our attention with prayer.

Patience: KJV uses the word long-suffering. It comes from the Greek word generally used not for patience regarding things or events but regarding people. We are not to live in agitation biding our time until we can get revenge. William Barclay comments: “If God had been a man, he would have wiped out this world long ago; but he has that patience which bears with all our sinning and will not cast us off.” Some people require a great deal more of our patience than others but then again maybe you do too.

Kindness: This word has the meaning of tender concern, even sweetness. Kindness is the characteristic that God demonstrated when he arranged salvation for us. Christ showed kindness to the sinning woman who anointed his feet.  Christ demonstrated the greatest kindness by allowing the sacrifice of his body and blood for our sins.

Goodness: The word means beneficial results. Goodness is virtue and holiness when we act selflessly on someone else’s behalf. Consider the goodness we receive from God every day. If he is good to me, an unworthy sinner, who am I to not “pay it forward”? It also focuses on our morality, which influences others for God.

Faithfulness: The Greek word used here is the characteristic of someone trustworthy, careful with what they have been entrusted with, steadfast, and constant. We are faithful in the knowledge that God is who he says he is and that his word is our guide despite what the world says. I know with all my heart that I can count on God to be faithful to me, but can God count on me? Can others count on me?

Gentleness: There is a difference of opinion among commentators about the meaning of the Greek word here. One writer states that it is not acting in tenderness or a soft way controlling physical strength for the benefit of another. He believes it is submitting to God’s plan with a humble and peaceful heart. Other writers believe it has to do with our restrained behavior towards others.

This following was taken from the website, Got Questions:

“Every person is powerful. We can speak words that influence others; we can act in ways that help or hurt; and we can choose what influences will inform our words and actions. Gentleness constrains and channels that power. To be gentle is to recognize that God's ways and thoughts are high above our own (Isaiah 55:9). It is to humbly realize that our worldviews are shaped by exposure to sin and the misinterpretation of experience. It is to accept God's worldview, reflecting truth about the spiritual and the material worlds.”

Got Questions thinking fits the context of Galatians better for me.

Self-control: The word used in the KJV is temperance, which means the ability to control yourself by using restraint and moderation. William Barclay comments that in secular Greek, the word was used to describe an Emperor who does not allow his personal interest to influence his government of the people. If only all our elected government leaders would practice the same.

We’ve looked at what the Bible has to say about the fruits of the spirit with the interpretations of the meaning of Galatians 5:22. Let’s think about the applications of these verses. For me, knowledge for knowledge sake is not enough; there needs to be an application to my life. I went to Freed-Hardeman for four semesters and each semester in Bible class we had to memorize fifty Bible verses. Not one of the four professors told us why they selected the verses they assigned to the class, nor did they discuss the application. II Timothy 2:15 directs us to study to show ourselves approved. This verse means more than to simply understand the words; we must make an application.

As we look at the application of each spirit, I am borrowing from Max Lucado’s book, When God Whispers Your Name. Max is one of those writers who believes that we must make a conscious choice to display the fruits of the spirit in our life. In my words, “It ain’t going to happen unless you CHOOSE for it to happen!” The Holy Spirit will not shove the fruits down our throats!

Love calls for actions on someone’s behalf. It does not have to be a grandiose action. Offer encouragement by speaking a kind word, send a note, let them know you are praying for them. When others are sick, cook a meal, mow a yard, take someone elderly person grocery shopping. Almost without fail, there are people in retirement and nursing homes that do not see their family for whatever reason. Run by at lunchtime to let them know that they matter and are loved.  Max writes, “No occasion justifies hatred; no injustice warrants bitterness. I choose love. Today I will love God and what God loves.”

Joy, in knowing that God desires a relationship with us is a positive influence in our life. Max: “I will invite my God to be the God of circumstance. I will refuse to see any problem as anything less than an opportunity to see God”. If others see this joy in our lives because of a relationship with God, we have become an encouragement for them to have a relationship with God.

Peace – Others can detect whether we are at peace or in distress. It’s difficult to always have peace when challenging times come. Through prayer, our faith can overcome stress and demonstrate to others that our peace is because of our relationship with God. Max relates our peace to God’s forgiveness in our lives: “I will live forgiven. I will forgive so that I may live”. Peace is living with the knowledge of our salvation always in our mind!

Patience with people is often a struggle for me. Because it is a struggle is no excuse, nor can I pass it off it as “God did not grant me much patience.”  Max believes patience is to be demonstrated in every situation: “I will overlook the inconveniences of the world. Instead of cursing the one who takes my place. I’ll invite him to do so. Rather than complain that the wait is too long, I will thank God for a moment to pray. Instead of clinching my fist at new assignments, I will face them with joy and courage”.

Kindness – God demonstrates his great kindness to us in many ways every day. His greatest kindness came when he watched as Christ was beaten, spit on, mocked, nailed to the cross, suffered while he hung on the cross, and speared in the side. These would be heartbreaking for a parent to watch but to have then your child ask why you forsook them would be the most grueling of all. How can I choose not to show kindness to others? Max: “I will be kind to the poor, for they are alone. Kind to the rich, for they are afraid. Kind to the unkind, for such is how God has treated me”.

Goodness – As the Holy Spirit works in our heart, our character changes and goodness becomes a way of life. We choose the fruits of the spirit and act in ways that are beneficial to others. We rid ourselves of selfishness, anger, spite, revenge, etc. and become focused on goodness. Max – “I will go without a dollar before I take a dishonest one. I will be overlooked before I boast. I will confess before I accuse”.

Faithfulness – We are entrusted with so much in our lives. Each of us has been given a talent to use to influence others for God. Our children count on us to take care of them in every way, physically and spiritually. Our employers count on us to be faithful in completing our work. Are we faithful to them in such a way to be an influence for God? Max writes: “Today I will keep my promises. My debtors will not regret their trust. My associates will not question my word. My wife will not question my love. And my children will never fear that their father will not come home.”

Gentleness is being able to restrain myself in either action or word. From Got Questions: “Gentleness, also translated “meekness,” does not mean weakness. Rather, it involves humility and thankfulness toward God, and polite, restrained behavior toward others. The opposites of gentleness are anger, a desire for revenge, and self-aggrandizement.”

Galatians 6:1 instructs us to go to someone in sin and restore them in gentleness. Even in difficult times, we are to remain gentle. Max: “Nothing is won by force. I choose to be gentle. If I raised my voice, may it only be in praise. If I clench my fist, may it only be in prayer. If I make a demand, may it only be of myself”. Ok, Max but what about Jesus running the money changers out of the temple? He was not gentle! Agreed! But he is the son of God. I’m not!

Self-control is not the most important fruit but is of great importance. Without self-control, the other fruits are much more difficult to maintain. Satan will use any means to tempt us, and he knows where we are the weakest. He will not waste his time and effort, tempting you with alcohol if it is not a weakness for you. We have to rely on God’s promise that he will provide a way out for us: I Corinthians 10:13 from God’s Word translation: “But when you are tempted, he will also give you the ability to endure the temptation as your way of escape.” Our ability to escape is using our self-control. Max: “I am a spiritual being. After this body is dead, my spirit will soar. I refuse to let what will rot, rule the eternal. I will be drunk only by joy. I will be impassioned only by my faith. I will be influenced only by God. I will be taught only by Christ. I choose self-control”.

In the second paragraph, there were questions to consider as you studied the fruits of the spirit. I believe these are the answers to the questions. The fruits are God’s expectations of us, not merely his wish list. He expects us to have these characteristics to influence others, but he also knows they will make our lives more fulfilling. He understands we may be stronger in some than others, but he expects us to work with the Holy Spirit to mature in them all. I believe they are of equal value to him. They are all interrelated, and each one supports the others. They are all important to God because we are his workman, servants, and we need to lead others to him. He wants us all to be in heaven with him.

Max writes: “Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. To these, I commit my day. If I succeed, I will give thanks. If I fail, I will seek his grace. And then, when this day is done, I will place my head on my pillow and rest”.

Whether we like to admit it or not people watch us because they know we are Christians. Some are truly interested in us as examples while others are waiting to find blame when we fail. As you can imagine, I do not always demonstrate the fruits in my behavior. Satan gets to me and I fail God. It’s not just failing God in our relationship that bothers me but the fact that I fail those that look for me to set the Christian example. We hold great influence with others in their relationship with God. We should ask God daily to strengthen us to demonstrate each of the fruits in our lives.

Practice Galatians 5:22, and I Corinthians 13.  Watch how much better your life and the lives of those around for you become.



Material used by Max Lucado: When God Whispers Your Name

Publisher: Word Publishing  - Copyright by,Max Lucado 1994

Used by Permission


Continue reading
  1222 Hits

Lessons in Humor and Tragedy

As I’ve researched the internet for information on topics, these two items stuck in my mind, so I wanted to share them.

One Sunday morning at a small southern church. The new pastor called on one of his older deacons to lead the opening prayer. The deacon stood up, bowed his head and said, “Lord, I hate buttermilk.” The pastor opened one eye and wondered where this was going. The deacon continued, “Lord, I hate lard.” Now the pastor was totally perplexed. The deacon continued, “Lord, I ain’t too crazy about plain flour. But after you mix 'em all together and bake ’em in a hot oven, I just love biscuits. Lord help us to realize when life gets hard when things come up that we don’t like, whenever we don’t understand what You are doing, that we need to wait and see what You are making. After You get through mixing and baking, it’ll probably be something even better than biscuits. Amen”

Romans 8:28 – And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Romans 12:12 -Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

Psalm 27:14 – Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

Looking through The Christian Chronicle, I noticed an obituary and wondered why this young lady’s death had been listed. On March 8, 2019, Mary Jo Ueberlien, age 20, and her sister were headed home to Wildwood, MO. for spring break from Harding University.

There was a terrible wreck, and Mary Jo was critically injured, but her sister only suffered a concussion. After eight days in the intensive care unit, Mary Jo could not overcome her injuries, and she passed away.

Mary Jo was a junior nursing student. Many of her fellow students wrote how much she loved and cared about others. A number of them wrote to The Chronicle letting them know that her organs had been donated to help others. She was a member of the Layfette Church of Christ in Ballwin, MO. The congregation posted a poem she wrote honor of her life:

Because of Jesus:

You are enough.

You are secure.

You are cared for.

You are seen.

You are forgiven.

You are free.

You have hope. And you are made to be His beloved.

It’s easy to understand why The Chronicle posted her obituary.

Through the humor of the deacon’s prayer, we learn to trust God and wait on Him. Through the tragic death of a young Christian lady, we learn that we can and do affect others in the way we live our lives.

Continue reading
  1134 Hits

God's Will

In studying for this article, I read and listened to many commentator’s views. I do not necessarily agree with all their opinions, but their writings cause me to reconfirm or to rethink my beliefs. One thing that most writers agree on is that there are many different views on God’s will. I apologize for the length of this article, but I found that the subject could not be covered in a couple of pages. The following is what I took away from the study.

Some writers believe that God’s will breaks down in two categories; his sovereign will or purpose and his moral will which is his command to conduct our lives by the teachings in the Bible. God does not intend for us to know most of his sovereign will ahead of time. Deuteronomy 29:29 “The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and our children forever, that we may follow all the words of his law.” Acts 1:7 … “It is not for you to know the times or dates the Father has set by his own authority……” God’s will requires that we have complete faith and trust him.

The term “God’s will” is used with different implications in the Bible. It’s used to mean the plan of God, the counsel of God, the decrees of God, the disposition or attitude of God. It is also be looked at in the active tense as his conscious deciding, willing, and choosing to do something.

Philip H. Towner’s thought: “Obedience to the will of God challenges and supersedes legalistic obedience to religious rules which through concretization have become meaningless and even hinder the pursuit of a knowledge of God. Ultimately, the readiness of an individual to acknowledge and then do God’s will determines whether that person will be able to apprehend the truth of Jesus.” He uses John 17:7 as his reference: “If anyone chooses to do God’s will, he will find out whether my teaching comes from God or whether I speak on my own.”

Think about God’s will as the plan by which everything is designed. He has laid out his blueprint for the entire world as well as for us individually. He expects us to align ourselves within that blueprint. Mr. Towner continues: “The will of God as a superstructure of God’s intervention in the affairs of humankind and for all of life was a belief that shaped much of the early church’s outlook on theology and life. Jesus’ own life, ministry, and teaching undoubtedly provided a formative influence.” The Bible is our resource for God’s blueprint to carefully study, understand and then execute his plan. It’s not a plan that God intends for us to pick and choose what we like and cast aside those portions we don’t like. We have a choice to make!

God’s will includes his plan of salvation. I Timothy 2:4 tells us that God’s global plan wants all men to be saved by coming to a knowledge of the truth. People disagree on exactly what God’s plan of salvation requires of us. I’m convinced many people’s religious beliefs are not based on their own search of the scriptures. They have accepted their parent’s beliefs, the beliefs of a minister or accepted the faith of their spouse. Understanding God’s will requires time spent in self-study. Do not set back with the idea of waiting on God to reveal his will to you by osmosis. There is not enough space or time in this article for me to share what I believe about God’s plan of salvation, but I will be happy to share with you at any time.

Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that God has plans for us as individuals: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Psalms 57:2: “I cry out to God Most High, to God, who fulfills his purpose for me.” How do I determine God’s plan or his purpose for me?  

Romans 12:1-2 – “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God --- this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is --- his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

In the Old Testament, God’s people offered animals to him as sacrifices for their sins. Paul tells us in Romans 12:1-2 that given God’s enormous sacrifice of Jesus for our sins, his purpose is that he now wants us to be living sacrifices and give ourselves in service to him. We are no longer to allow the world to influence the way we live, but we are to have a renewed mind or change of heart to live for God. Some writers believe this change is influenced and led by the Holy Spirit. The word “test” used in the NIV was “prove” in the KJV. The word was used to mean the transformed person would demonstrate or show the will of God by the way he lives.

In some ways, God’s plan for me is a mystery. I don’t always fully understand his intent for me. Here are a few verses that give us an idea of God’s purpose for us:

  • Ecclesiastes 12:13 tells us that fearing God and keeping his commandments is my whole duty;
  • Ephesians 2:8-10 says we were created in Jesus for good works;
  • II Thessalonians 1:12 tells us that we are to glorify God in our lives;
  • I Corinthians 12:7-11 and I Peter 4:10-11 says we each have gifts to serve God
  • In John 15:12 Jesus commands that we love one another as he has loved us.

Boyd Bailey offers these thoughts on understanding God’s will:

  • Search the scriptures for the basics of being a follower of Christ. If we follow Christ’s teachings, we will always be in God’s will.
  • Find objective counsel. Proverbs 15:22 “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Listen to believers who will not just tell you what you want to hear. They can assist you in self-evaluation. If they tell you something is God’s will, ask for Bible references then study for yourself.
  • Find peace. Psalms 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God.” Philippians 4:7 “And the peace of God which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Jesus Christ.” For me, this one is difficult. I’m impatient always trying to make things happen. If I can sit quietly “listening” to God, he usually “speaks” to me. No, I do not believe that God supernaturally talks to me, but somehow looking for his peace and guidance helps. Being patient and waiting on God helps you understand his will.
  • Prayer should be a constant in trying to understand God’s will for our lives. Surrendering to God’s plan not asking him to match our plan is vital. It’s ok to ask God for his help with what we would like to see happen, but his plan comes first, always. Do not expect him to yield to your plan.

We should always keep these things in our heart as our purpose. The best way to determine what he expects of us is to study and determine what gift he has given us to serve him. Prayer is vital to discover our gift.

God’s counsel can be sought through study and prayer. If we are truly trying to seek and follow his will, he will bless our efforts. I John 5:14 tells that “if we ask God anything according to his will, he hears us.” What happens if I pray for something that is not in his will? God will not bless something that is evil or requests that are made with the wrong motive.

The decrees of God are his declarations and pronouncements that he has made within his plan. They declare his purposes under his will. They are also considered his counsel.

God’s disposition or attitude tells us God’s thinking and feelings on matters of morality and how he wants them handled. Once again, his disposition and attitude are in the Bible. They are found in the teachings of Christ as the inspired word of God.

God’s conscious deciding, willing, and choosing to do something maybe the concept of God’s will that people will discuss and disagree on the most. This happens especially when it’s used to decide whether God caused something to happen. When a tragic event happens, some people declare it God’s will and others will counter with God did not cause or make that happen. I do not doubt that God allows tragedy to come into our lives, but I have trouble believing that he caused that four-year-old child to be brutally beaten and killed. Some of the writers make an absolute statement that he will not cause events like this. Others believe that God will use anything to serve his purposes. My question is: What purpose did the death of that child serve? I don’t know!

How does God’s will and our free will work together? Scripture from the very beginning of time shows that humans have minds and wills of their own. Consider Adam and Eve. II Chronicles 12:14 points out that Rehoboam “did evil because he had not set his heart on seeking the Lord.” Luke 6 says that a good man brings out the good in his heart but that the evil man brings out evil things. God wants us to choose to do his will but is not going to shove it down our throats. That is free will.

Does God have a will over everything in my life? Here again, there are different answers to this question. I believe his will covers my entire life, but I cannot find his guidance to everything in the Bible. It’s estimated that the average person makes about 35,000 decisions each day. The answers for some of our decisions are not always found in the Bible. We decide about job changes, who to marry etc. and you cannot find a verse that gives a direct answer in the Bible. If you are seeking to find God’s will, pray for guidance and “be still and listen.”

Verses relating directly to morality are found in the Bible. Every question relating to our morality is there if you look for it. That part of God’s will is spelled out.

Kay and I made a decision ten years ago to retire and move from Memphis to Bell Buckle. We prayed long and often about the decision. Everything was fitting together for the relocation, so we believed it was God’s will. Why was it God’s will and what was his purpose? To this day we have no idea the answer to that question. Has his will already been served or is it still to happen? We may never know, but we have faith that our move was within his will.

How’s your faith in accepting God’s will? Mine is often weak and not what it should be. I pray to God about many things but still worry. I don’t worry because I doubt his power and abilities but what if his will does not match my request. Death visits each of us at one time or another. Hebrews 9:27 “Just as people are destined to die once….” Death is a part of God’s will. A few days ago eight children were shot at a school in Colorado with one 18-year-old dying. Why? Because bad people do bad things is the answer.

We have all prayed for the sick people in our lives with success and failure. The most difficult death is that of a child. There is no explanation that soothes our anguish. After the birth of his daughter four years ago, my son told me how difficult it would be for his relationship with God if something happened to Kinleigh. The reply to his comment is “have faith in God.” but that seems to be an easy answer at a very difficult time.

John Mark Hicks, a professor at Harding Graduate School and now at Lipscomb, advises not to tell someone after the death of a loved one “it’s God’s will.” He does not believe that offers the comfort intended and can offend. There is nothing we can say to remove the feeling of someone who has lost a loved one. Just being there for them and telling them you are sorry for their loss is the best we can do.

It’s time to close this study! There is no way this article answered all the questions you may have concerning God’s will. Hopefully, it helped you in your efforts to learn God’s will for your life. Study the Bible, pray for God’s guidance, and grow your faith!

Please share your beliefs on God’s will at mikeclement@



Continue reading
  1535 Hits

God's Discipline

God loves and cares about us. He wants us to be happy even though it may not always fell that way. He like any good parent is going to discipline us when we stray from the way he wants us to live. He does not discipline us out of anger but from love. We’ve sinned, and he wants us to repent and turn from our sins. Sometimes, he needs to get our attention.

Rick Warren writes: “God is more interested in your character than your comfort. God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making your life happy.”

The following verses assure us of what God’s discipline means for us:

Job 5:17-18 – Blessed is the man who God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty. For he wounds, but he also binds up; he injures, but his hands also heal.

Proverbs 3:11-12 – My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.,

Proverbs 10:17 - He who heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray.

Proverbs 12:1 – Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid.

Hebrews12:7 – Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons.

Hebrews 12:10-11 – Our fathers discipline us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines for our good, that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Revelations 3:19 – Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest and repent.

The discipline I received as a child took on different forms, sometimes a spanking, other times being deprived of the TV, as I grew older grounding to the house was used. The discipline that I hated most was being told how disappointed my Mother was in me. The discipline was meant to be both punishment and character building. I believe I can feel God’s disappointment when I’ve sinned.

God’s discipline does not take the form of punishment! Billy Graham writes: “God does not discipline us to subdue us but to condition us for a life of usefulness and blessedness.  In his wisdom, he knows that an uncontrolled life is an unhappy life, so he puts reins on our wayward souls that they may be directed into the paths of righteousness.”    

One commentator looks at God’s discipline as three forms: warning, disciplining and chastening which he believes are all somewhat different. I looked up the dictionary definition of disciplining and chastening.  They are very similar, but discipline can be used to mean training while chastening can be used to mean rebuking. Regardless, the outcome of God’s discipline is to create a change in us.

1 Peter 1 starting in verse 3 tells us that God has given us a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead. Verse 6: “In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith …. may be proved genuine….”

What trials does God use to discipline us? The commentators offer many different thoughts, but most agree that he will use anything to discipline us. The following is a collection of their thoughts:

+ Paul had a thorn in his flesh that he asked God three times to remove. God told Paul that his grace was sufficient and did not remove the thorn. Some believe that the thorn was a speech impediment while others believe it was some other physical problem. Some believe that Paul’s struggle with those who tried everything or anything to stop his ministry were his thorn causing him great stress. Most of them agree that it was due to Paul’s pride. God wanted him more humble.

+ One writer believes God uses financial burdens to discipline those that are not good stewards. A couple with a lot of debt came to him for counseling. His first question was the amount of their contribution to the church. They were not contributing anything to the collection plate on Sunday. This minister believes God was using the financial burden to get their attention. The couple gladly accepted his blessings, and he wanted better stewardship.

+ Another commentator believes God will use shattered relationships as a form of discipline. You may have a friend that’s hurting your relationship with God. It could be a spouse that’s causing you to turn from God. It seems extreme to think that divorce, breaking up a family, would be used but we must trust God’s discipline.

+ Will God use our health as a form to disciple us? Sometimes the disease is just a natural result of life, but writers do believe God will use poor health to get our attention.

Please forgive the personal reference but over the past four years, I have given a lot of thought to this question. The stroke could have killed me which Kay thought was going to be the result. Over the four days of the stroke, I got worse every day. It could have ended with me being an invalid. On day five, my speech was unintelligible; the only thing that I could swallow with difficulty was liquids, and I had no control over my right side. After a long period of inpatient and outpatient rehab, I can eat solid foods, about 80% of the use of my right side has returned, and my speech even though still difficult to understand is better. Was the stroke meant for a warning, discipline or chastening? I do not know. I will confess though; I’ve never been one to tell others about what God has done for me in my life. Now I freely share with people that I am blessed because of what could have happened. God rescued from death and from being an invalid! Maybe God’s intent was for me to share with others what a great God he is!

+ One thought offered is that God uses other people to administer his discipline. Proverbs 27:6 tells us that wounds from a friend can be trusted. Maybe we should listen carefully when friends try to counsel us. It could be God!

One of my favorite books is On The Anvil by Max Lucado. It compares discipline in our lives to the tools that a blacksmith creates and reshapes on the anvil to make them useful. God’s discipline is to make us useful in his kingdom. “Anvil time” is God’s discipline.

He writes: “Time on God’s anvil should clarify our mission and define our purpose. When a tool emerges from a blacksmith’s anvil, there is no question as to what is for. As a human being emerges from the anvil of God, the same should be true. Being tested by God reminds us that our function and task is to be about his business; that our purpose is to be an extension of his nature, an ambassador of his throne room, and a proclaimer of his message. We should exit the shop with no question as to why God made us. We know our purpose.”

“In a world of confused identity, in a world of wavering commitments and foggy futures, let us be firm in our role. Society is in dire need of a quorum of people whose task is clear and whose determination is unquenchable.”

Take time to consider the hardships you are enduring. Is God sending me a message that I need to make corrections in my life? Is he steering me to be more productive in his kingdom? Pray that you may clearly understand his discipline. Then ask for his guidance and strength to take his correction and direction. God is channeling our lives for his and our good!



On The Anvil by Max Lucado

Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. Copyright 1985 - Max Lucado

Used by permission

Continue reading
  1397 Hits

Am I Like Judas?


When you think about Judas, probably the first thought is of a purely evil man who betrayed Christ for thirty pieces of silver. Thirty pieces of silver today would probably be worth $3,000 which does not seem like a huge amount to betray the Son of God.

There is not a great deal known about Judas. He was one of the twelve apostles chosen, so he had some redeeming qualities. He was given the same spiritual gifts as the other eleven apostles. Judas could drive out demons, cure disease and preach. When Jesus told the apostles one of them would betray him, the other apostles did not look at Judas in an accusing manner but hey begin asking one another which one it might be. Judas certainly did not admit to anything but played his part.

Judas was the treasurer for the apostles so you would think he was trustworthy. However, John12 relates the story of Mary pouring expensive perfume on Jesus’ feet. Judas objected and wanted to know why the perfume was not sold and given to the poor. Verse six states: “He did not say this because he cared about the poor but because he was a thief; as keeper of the bag, he used it to help himself to what was put into to it.” Wonder how many times he embezzled for his own use but continued to play his part as an apostle?

Judas spent three years of his apostleship with Jesus. Colin Smith writes: “Judas heard all the teaching of Jesus. He heard the Sermon on the Mount, so he knew there was a narrow road that leads to life and a broad road that leads to destruction. He heard the warnings Jesus spoke to the Pharisees, so he knew there is a hell to shun and a heaven to gain. He heard the parable of the prodigal son, so he knew God is ready to welcome and forgive those who wasted themselves in sin.”

So, what happened with Judas to make him betray Jesus? Smith continues: “Judas teaches us that even the best example, the most compelling evidences, and the finest teaching --- the ultimate environment for incubating faith --- cannot, in and of themselves, change the human heart.” Luke 22:3 reports that “Satan entered Judas.”    Judas did not simply sin, but he hid his sin of embezzlement. His sin to betray Jesus did not just happen but was well planned out. Judas freely opened his heart and invited Satan in. That’s what happened to Judas. Judas played his part as an apostle.

Some commentators believe that Judas was predestined to betray Jesus because of David’s writings in Psalm 41:9 “Even my close friend, whom I have trusted, he who shared my bread, has lifted up his heel against me.” They also point out in Acts 17 that Peter referred to David’s words about Judas’ betrayal. John 6:64 states that Jesus had known from the beginning Judas would betray him. John 17 records Jesus’ prayer for himself. In verse 12, he tells God that he has protected the apostles so that ”None has been lost except the one doomed to destruction so that Scripture would be fulfilled.” These verses speak about foreknowledge, not predestination. Even after Jesus told the twelve one of them would betray him Judas asked, “Surely not I, Rabbi?” His heart was elsewhere. Judas was acting his part.

Max Lucado writes in his book, On The Anvil, “As Satan worked his way around the table in the Upper Room, he needed a special kind of man to betray our Lord. He needed a man who had seen Jesus but did not know him. He needed a man who knew the actions of Jesus but missed out on the mission of Jesus. Judas was the man. He knew the empire but had never known the Man.”

“We learn the timeless lesson from the betrayer. Satan’s best tools of destruction are not from outside the church; they are within the church. A church will never die from the immorality in Hollywood or the corruption in Washington. But it will die from corrosion within ---from those who bear the name of Jesus but have never met him, and from those who have religion, but no relationship. Judas bore the cloak of religion, but he never knew the heart of Jesus.”

Mr. Lucado is somewhat correct. While serving as an apostle, Judas did not relate to Jesus. But, when Judas realized that Jesus was condemned to die, the Bible records that he was “seized with remorse.” He then tried to return the silver and stated: “I have sinned, for I have betrayed innocent blood.” Judas, because of his great remorse hanged himself. It appears all that he had heard and witnessed with Jesus affected him but too late.

Satan found in Judas a receptive heart to temptations. He understood Judas’ weaknesses and continued to bombard him just as he does us. Mr. Smith writes: “Satan doesn’t gain a foothold in the lives of people who are walking in the light with Jesus. He only gains access when we open the door.”

Klass Schilder, the author of Christ His Sufferings, writes: “It is the peculiar majesty of Jesus that he can conquer man without man’s first approaching him. But Satan’s frailty is provided by this, that he cannot approach a soul unless that soul has first turned to him.” I was not sure I agreed with the second part of Mr. Schilder’s premise, so I searched the scriptures and do not believe I can disprove him. James 1:14 says “but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed” seems to add validity to his belief.

Let’s not play the part of being religious as Judas did. Let’s be real, know the heart of Jesus and have an honest relationship. Let’s not be like Judas and open our hearts to Satan.

Mike – This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Thought from a church marquee: Time and money spent serving God are never wasted!

My kind of humor from FB: The next time you are in the checkout line, and the clerk asks if you found everything you were looking for. Reply, why, are you hiding some things?

Continue reading
  370 Hits

Random Acts of Kindness

Random Acts of Kindness

This book was published in 1993. It does not claim to be a Christian publication but gives good thoughts on how we as Christians can demonstrate kindness in our lives.

Galatians 5:22-23 lays out the fruits of the spirit which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. If you are performing acts of kindness you are demonstrating love; you are in peace; it’s hard not to have joy as you show kindness, to be kind sometimes shows great patience; you are faithful as you serve others, and gentleness and self-control are part of kindness. Think about this as you read these thoughts on acts of kindness.

+ A small boy was struggling with leukemia, and when he was discouraged or particularly sick, a package would arrive with a little toy or book from the Magic Dragon to cheer him up. No one knew the identity of the Magic Dragon. After the little boy died the parents were sure the Dragon would reveal him or herself, but that never happened. The writer of this story vowed to become a Magic Dragon for some little child struggling with life. Who better to demonstrate Christian kindness to than a child?

+ ” I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the community, and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live. Life is no “brief candle” to me. It is sort of a splendid torch which I have got a hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.” George Bernard Shaw Read the statement again and insert “God” for “community”! Matthew 5:14-16 tells us to let our light shine that people may see our good works and praise God.

+One author wrote a story about while jogging every day he noticed an older woman sitting on the park bench with an even older dog. One day he noticed the dog was not with the woman, so he stopped to inquire about the dog and the woman begin to cry. The dog died the night before. The runner sat down to visit with her for over an hour. Each day the man and woman would greet one another, and he would stop on occasion to visit. The woman was very lonely but also very strong. Even though she was strong, she still needed someone to show her that she mattered. The author thinks about her when he is sad then smiles at the memory of her.

Taking the opportunity to show that people matter will bless us as much as the other person.

+ “Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.” Theodore Issac Rubin

+ ” For one week act on every single thought of generosity that arises spontaneously in your heart and notice what happens as a consequence.”

+ Ecclesiastes 11:6 “Keep on sowing your seed, for you never know which will grow---perhaps it all will.” The seed of kindness can work wonders.

+ In an Oakland, California, neighbors watched as Mary’s house and yard slowly decayed. Mary was an elderly, wheelchair-bound widow who could no longer take proper care of her house and yard. Two of Mary ’s neighbors went to the city’s Office of Community Development to get enough paint and supplies for her house. After painting the house, they took care of the yard. Performing this type of kindness takes a commitment and clearly shows the Christian spirit of a light shining for God.

+ “Little kindnesses will broaden your heart, and slowly you will habituate yourself to helping your fellow man in many ways.” Zadik

I’m not going to use any more examples of acts of kindness because we all know things we could do, but for whatever reason, we don’t. Maybe the reason is that we are so focused on ourselves we don't notice someone else’s needs. Maybe we don’t want to get involved. Could it be that we don’t want to take the time? Read the following quotes and think about the points these writers are making.

+ “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” Mother Teresa

+ “Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are traveling the dark journey with us. Oh, be swift to love, make haste to be kind.” Henri Frederick Amiel

+ “No joy can equal the joy of serving others.” Sai Baba

+ “Kindness makes the difference between passion and caring. Kindness is tenderness; kindness is love, perhaps greater than love…kindness is goodwill, kindness says “I want you to be happy.” Kindness comes very close to the benevolence of God.” Randolf Ray

+ “If there is any kindness I can show or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now and not deter or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.” William Penn

+ “People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motive. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.” Mother Teresa

About 30 years ago Larry West*, a personal evangelist, came to our congregation in Memphis to hold a personal evangelism class. His approach was to ask a simple question, “ if you died today, do you have any doubts about where you would spend eternity?” That seemed easy enough, so I asked that question to a young man who came with his girlfriend to our young singles class. His answer was “yes” so I ask him to if we could study and again he said “yes.” He never came to church again. I offered the young lady and her mother an apology, but they insisted no apology was needed. They felt like the young man showed his true colors, but that left a terrible memory in my mind.

We have a responsibility to help people build a relationship with God and Christ. I am not comfortable with trying to act as a personal evangelist. Demonstrating kindness can others build a relationship with God. There is a saying, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” If you open the door with acts of kindness and don’t feel comfortable conducting a study, many other people will lead the study. You can be an evangelist through an act of kindness.

Max Lucado in his book, On The Anvil, writes about a conversation with God while in silent prayer in church. He tells God he wants to do great things for him by teaching millions, do TV and radio work and speak to Congress. God comes back to Max and tells him to notice the fellow sitting next to him. He needs a ride home from church. Also, an older lady sitting near him needs a refrigerator moved. Max says but God “what about the world”? God’s answer, “Think about it!”

Please share a story about your acts of kindness and their success at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

*Larry West is the father of Missy Robertson on Duck Dynasty.

Continue reading
  1680 Hits